Category Archives: Stephen Arterburn

Complementarian soul essence.

Some readers of my recent series on the book Every Man’s Marriage may feel that I’ve unfairly lumped Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker in with complementarians. After all, their book teaches that the wife is the master, and that the … Continue reading

Posted in Complementarian, Denial, Every Man's Marriage, Fred Stoeker, Servant Leader, She's the boss., Stephen Arterburn, Traditional Conservatives, Wife worship | 45 Comments

The thought of holding hands with him made her sick, but fortunately he convinced her to marry him.

In Chapter 20 of Every Man’s Marriage, Stephen Arterburn explains that when he was dating his wife Sandy she found the idea of holding his hand revolting: When Sandy and I were dating, I attempted to hold her hand one night.  She … Continue reading

Posted in Closeness, Every Man's Marriage, Game, Servant Leader, Stephen Arterburn | 141 Comments

That the word of God be not blasphemed

As bad as Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker come off in Every Man’s Marriage, I think Brenda Stoeker comes off the worst. None of this is intentional, as Stephen and Fred are supposed to come off bad for having not … Continue reading

Posted in Complementarian, Every Man's Marriage, Fred Stoeker, Stephen Arterburn, Submission, Turning a blind eye, Ugly Feminists, Wife worship | 98 Comments

Her soul essence is your master, and sets the terms for oneness.

As I explained in my last post, the book Every Man’s Marriage is founded in fear.  Fred Stoeker explains in Chapter 1 that when his wife Brenda announced she didn’t have feelings for him any more he went into a crippling … Continue reading

Posted in Attacking headship, Complementarian, Every Man's Marriage, Fred Stoeker, Servant Leader, Stephen Arterburn, Traditional Conservatives, Turning a blind eye, Wife worship, You can't make this stuff up | 138 Comments

It started with a whimper (a servant leader is born).

Bdash77 pointed me* to the book Every Man’s Marriage, an Every Man’s Guide to Winning the heart of a woman.  This is the follow up book to the wildly popular Every Man’s Battle, and is by the same authors (Stephen … Continue reading

Posted in Attacking headship, Complementarian, Crossdressing Theology, Disrespecting Respectability, Divorce, Fred Stoeker, Servant Leader, Stephen Arterburn, Traditional Conservatives, Turning a blind eye, Wake-up call | 89 Comments