Category Archives: Servant Leader

Servant Leadership in two easy lessons.

Lesson 1:  Your only job as a husband is to sacrifice yourself for her, not lead her.  Don’t ever tell her what her role is or what to do.  That would be subjugation: Subjugation is defined as “defeating or gaining … Continue reading

Posted in Attacking headship, Complementarian, FamilyLife, Marriage, Servant Leader, Stepping Up® | 172 Comments

Real Men Step Up to Fifty Shades of Rationalization.

There is a blog companion to FamilyLife/Dennis Rainey’s Stepping Up® book and video program, and it has a three part series by Scott Williams on Fifty Shades of Grey (50SOG).  With the titles alone, you can’t make this stuff up: What’s a … Continue reading

Posted in 50 Shades of Grey, Book of Oprah, Complementarian, Denial, Dennis Rainey, FamilyLife, Feral Females, Game, Headship, Manliness, Romantic Love, Servant Leader, Stepping Up®, Submission, Traditional Conservatives, Turning a blind eye, Ugly Feminists, You can't make this stuff up | 159 Comments

Rainey understands his target audience.

When Dennis Rainey wants men to watch his man up videos, he turns to the complementarian head of the household, the wife.  It is true that unlike their rivals (egalitarians), complementarians practice headship and submission;  they have merely reversed the … Continue reading

Posted in Complementarian, Dennis Rainey, Disrespecting Respectability, Dr. Russell Moore, Headship, Servant Leader, Stepping Up®, Submission | 49 Comments

Step up, so they don’t have to (part 2).

As I explained in part one, men stepping up is a well loved refrain with complementarians and other conservative Christians.  It is a brilliantly deceptive term, because the objective is to appear to be fighting our feminist culture while taking … Continue reading

Posted in Complementarian, Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, Crossdressing Theology, Dennis Rainey, Disrespecting Respectability, FamilyLife, Marriage, Nagging, Rebellion, Servant Leader, Stepping Up®, Traditional Conservatives, Turning a blind eye, Weak men screwing feminism up, You can't make this stuff up | 108 Comments

Step up, so they don’t have to (part 1).

There is a well loved refrain, especially among complementarians, that men need to “step up”.  This is a deceptive phrase, because in reality the objective is to allow men to avoid what is difficult and uncomfortable.  It is false bravado … Continue reading

Posted in Acts 29, Complementarian, Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, Dave and Ann Wilson, Denial, Disrespecting Respectability, Dr. David Clarke, Dr. Richard L. Strauss, Dr. Russell Moore, Focus on the Family, Frigidity, Glenn Stanton, Legitimacy, Manliness, Marriage, Military, Pastor Matt Chandler, Rape Culture, Rebellion, Servant Leader, Social Justice Warriors, The Gospel Coalition, The only real man in the room, The Real Feminists, Tim and Kathy Keller, Traditional Conservatives, Turning a blind eye, Weak men screwing feminism up | 153 Comments