Category Archives: Finding a Spouse

Fighting choice addiction.

To my future husband: I know you will be worth the wait! — Wendy Griffith, Age 53* Choice addiction is part intoxication with the process of judging suitors, and part fear of missing out on something better. The risk is … Continue reading

Posted in Choice Addiction, Envy, Finding a Spouse, Wendy Griffith | 272 Comments

Someday we’ll laugh!

Commenter Ofelas pointed out the absurdity of the main character in Cat Person imagining how much a future boyfriend would enjoy hearing about her having sex with other men: …she imagined that somewhere, out there in the universe, there was … Continue reading

Posted in Cat Person, Choice Addiction, Cracks in the narrative, Diary of Why, Finding a Spouse, Judging the performance, Rationalization Hamster, Serial Monogamy, Solipsism, Status of marriage, Turning a blind eye, Ugly Feminists, You can't make this stuff up | 297 Comments

She made a mistake once.

She thought she was wrong, but it turned out she wasn’t. This is the lesson Wendy Griffith learned in the process of becoming a 53 year old never married career woman.  After five months of dating, Griffith started pushing “Michael” … Continue reading

Posted in Finding a Spouse, Turning a blind eye, Ugly Feminists, Weak men screwing feminism up, Wendy Griffith | 91 Comments

The heartache of entitlement.

Novaseeker notes that Wendy Griffith is well above average in attractiveness for women her age, and speculates that she really isn’t serious about finding a husband: Griffith is well, well above average looking for her age. She’s in the top … Continue reading

Posted in Finding a Spouse, Game, Nevermarried, Rationalization Hamster, Ugly Feminists, Weak men screwing feminism up, Wendy Griffith, You can't make this stuff up | 172 Comments

Devouring a lifetime of courtship.

I’ve written in the past about women’s complaints that men aren’t meeting their expectations for courtship, and why it is entirely rational for men to either withdraw from traditional courtship altogether or limit and carefully target their courtship expenditure.  Women … Continue reading

Posted in Chivalry, Data, Death of courtship, Finding a Spouse, Nevermarried, Ugly Feminists, Wendy Griffith | 227 Comments