Category Archives: Every Man’s Marriage

Blinded by chivalry.

Commenter 7817 asks: Dalrock, have you read Wilson’s post from last year where he says that one of the beautiful things the puritans did was to enshrine Chivalry in marriage? From the post: ” This was the origin of the … Continue reading

Posted in Albert Mohler, C.S. Lewis, Chivalry, Courtly Love, Dave and Ann Wilson, Every Man's Marriage, Fred Stoeker, John Milton, New Morality, Pastor Doug Wilson, Romantic Love, Traditional Conservatives, Turning a blind eye, Wife worship | 97 Comments

Complementarian soul essence.

Some readers of my recent series on the book Every Man’s Marriage may feel that I’ve unfairly lumped Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker in with complementarians. After all, their book teaches that the wife is the master, and that the … Continue reading

Posted in Complementarian, Denial, Every Man's Marriage, Fred Stoeker, Servant Leader, She's the boss., Stephen Arterburn, Traditional Conservatives, Wife worship | 45 Comments

The thought of holding hands with him made her sick, but fortunately he convinced her to marry him.

In Chapter 20 of Every Man’s Marriage, Stephen Arterburn explains that when he was dating his wife Sandy she found the idea of holding his hand revolting: When Sandy and I were dating, I attempted to hold her hand one night.  She … Continue reading

Posted in Closeness, Every Man's Marriage, Game, Servant Leader, Stephen Arterburn | 141 Comments

That the word of God be not blasphemed

As bad as Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker come off in Every Man’s Marriage, I think Brenda Stoeker comes off the worst. None of this is intentional, as Stephen and Fred are supposed to come off bad for having not … Continue reading

Posted in Complementarian, Every Man's Marriage, Fred Stoeker, Stephen Arterburn, Submission, Turning a blind eye, Ugly Feminists, Wife worship | 98 Comments

Her soul essence is your master, and sets the terms for oneness.

As I explained in my last post, the book Every Man’s Marriage is founded in fear.  Fred Stoeker explains in Chapter 1 that when his wife Brenda announced she didn’t have feelings for him any more he went into a crippling … Continue reading

Posted in Attacking headship, Complementarian, Every Man's Marriage, Fred Stoeker, Servant Leader, Stephen Arterburn, Traditional Conservatives, Turning a blind eye, Wife worship, You can't make this stuff up | 138 Comments