14 And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle,[c] encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. 15 See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. 16 Rejoice always, 17 pray without ceasing, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. 19 Do not quench the Spirit.
–1 Thessalonians 5:14-19 (ESV)
3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
–Titus 2:3-5 (ESV)
As a younger wife (especially in the baby & toddler zone) this often made me irritated. “Don’t I have enough to clean up daily after the kids!” 😒 years ago I actually felt bitterness about it.
But these little things represent his presence in our home. What if they weren’t there each day? What else would be missing from our lives? His laugh, his comfort, his guidance? How many women and children are living that harsh sadness out?
The scattered trail of his daily routine means I have a husband who keeps coming home. I’m not doing life on my own. I’m not raising my girls by myself. .
And that is a cause for gratitude, not irritation ❤️ if you’re in that mode sister, take a breath, this is a common attitude trap for us. And You’re most likely tired. But Remember-It’s not “your burden” it’s your gift. ❤️
The wife in question (Holly Simon) posted this on Facebook, and as the article notes it didn’t go over well in the social media henhouse. Resentment and a miserly outlook are the core fuels of feminism, so proposing gratitude is a direct attack on what nearly everyone thinks is progress and enlightenment.
This however shows an opportunity for any Christian leaders who want to be faithful to Scripture and help rescue wives from the torment of the feminist mind frame. Christian leaders could teach the same message as Holly Simon did above, and they could urge older Christian women to do the same.
In the past I’ve noted that nearly all Christian leaders are terrified of the kind of violent clucking Simon experienced when she offended feminist sensibilities. Others have noted that Christian leaders very often have a financial stake in not ruffling feminist feathers. Both are certainly true, but we shouldn’t underestimate how much of the unwillingness to challenge feminism comes from a love of chivalry. On the extreme conservative side we have pastors like Pastor Tim Bayly who proudly calls his wife lord, and argues that Christianity would be much better if all Christian husbands did the same. Feminist resentment creates an opportunity to urge husbands to submit to their wives. It also fits with the chivalrous idea of the husband nobly suffering at the capricious hands of his wife, just as Lancelot suffered for Guinevere. That this childish game also causes suffering for the wife herself, not to mention the children and the rest of the family, is considered a small price to pay to indulge the chivalrous temptation.