Adam Piggott makes an astute observation about Wendy Griffith’s claim that God doesn’t want women to settle in Are you special enough for women like Wendy?
…when it comes to selecting their future spouse apparently God purposely made a great number indeed of very average men who are entirely beneath consideration just so that women like Wendy could test their faith by rejecting them. How is it even remotely statistically possible for God to supposedly want all of us to wait for His very best?
Implicit in this delusion is that Griffiths herself is one of these very best from God. Why else would she be holding out for the very best if she were not also one of the highly anointed?
Griffith has overlooked the fact that she wasn’t the only person involved in her relationships. For surely God wouldn’t create a puzzle that couldn’t possibly fit together. For the countless men Wendy decided weren’t God’s best for her in the roughly four decades she would have hooked up with, dated, or rejected before marrying at 54, Wendy wasn’t God’s best.
She simply wasn’t good enough, and God was sparing these men the misfortune of marrying her so they could marry someone immensely better. Chances are we are talking hundreds of men, really millions, even billions of men if you think about it. For even if Wendy never crossed a man’s path, she still wasn’t God’s best for that man, as God had a better woman in mind for him than Wendy Griffith. To marry her would have been to (in Wendy’s words) settle for crumbs. Moreover, if billions of men deserve better, and God is faithful to what Wendy claims He promises, that means that billions of women are better than her. Getting picked last sucks under any circumstance, but in this view it is especially brutal. At age 54, God finally found a man who didn’t deserve a better woman than Wendy.
I’ll clarify that this is the implication of Wendy Griffith’s feminist friendly view of Christian marriage, not my own perspective. But the conclusion is logically inescapable if you accept her claim that God has chosen His very best for all of us, and so long as we are faithful and wait, and don’t settle for someone who isn’t good enough, He will ultimately send us His best.
Griffith: If we don’t know [our value], again we’ll settle for much less. You know it breaks God’s heart when we settle. And that’s the other thing that the Lord taught me through the heartbreak was God hates compromise! He hates it when we settle, because He’s a good daddy, he wants to give his daughters – and his sons – His very best. And He’ll let us settle if we ignore all the red flags and if we keep going He’ll say ok but He desperately doesn’t want us to settle. He want’s us to hold out for His best.