Pastor Michael Foster tweets:
This is a partial picture. We might call this plan Beta, where plan Alpha is to exhibit dark triad traits. Plan Beta is the Christian path to attracting a wife, but there are two huge challenges facing a Christian man trying to follow this path.
The first challenge is that Christian women are being taught they are a prize to be won, and they are the pearl of great price. This leads many Christian women to delay marriage while giving them an immense sense of entitlement that makes them more attracted to men who follow plan Alpha. This is a relatively new phenomenon. Not long ago a woman who became eligible to join AARP without marrying would be seen as having failed at finding a husband. She would be a cautionary tale. Now a never married woman in her 50s is seen as a wise role model young Christian women should follow:
In this Spirit Connection podcast episode, my special guest is a good friend of mine—Wendy Griffith. She is a co-host of The 700 Club, an anchor/senior reporter for the Christian Broadcasting Network and co-anchors Christian World News on TBN. She’s traveled internationally, reporting on revival and has a powerful gift of the word of knowledge for healing. Wendy authored You Are A Prize To Be Won! Don’t Settle for Less Than God’s Best…
“You know I am 53 and I’ve been single all my life and never married … and you said, ‘you’re going to need strength to wait.’ Honestly that was not the word I wanted to hear.”
“God is going to give you the desires of your heart. Don’t settle. It’s so easy to settle during the waiting … God promises His best to His children. He’s not capable of giving us anything but His best.”
But as big as this challenge is, there is an even bigger challenge for Christian men following plan Beta. The bigger problem is not with young Christian women, but with older Christian men. The bigger problem is that Christian men don’t respect respectable men, especially the married fathers they go to church with. This is readily visible in Christian movies, as well as on Father’s Day. While there is plenty of detail in the previous two links, you can see this just as well by comparing two pictures. Here is how modern Christians view badboy biker tattoo artists (plan Alpha). Here is how modern Christians view married Christian fathers (plan Beta). Anyone who tells you modern Christians think the plan Beta man is the sexier option is fooling themselves. For context and to see both images at once, see this post by Larry Kummer at Fabius Maximus.
Obviously none of this changes the fact that the moral path for a Christian man is plan Beta. However, that path is much harder than it should be due to the modern Christian fear of telling women no and our contempt for respectable men. This is cruel to both young men and young women, as well as the children who grow up in the anti family modern Christian culture.
Edit: Pastor Foster posted a follow up tweet including the comment he left below.