Crazy cat lady logic

I’ll be shutting down comments later in the day, but in the meantime enjoy (Courtesy of The Other McCain) the first rate feminist logic of Katy Kreitler in Sad Spinsters And Crazy Cat Ladies:  Why Society Shames Single Women And Why We Should Celebrate The Single Life Instead.  Kreitler wants us to know there is no shame in being a woman of a certain age who is still single.

Because being single is AWESOME!

And really important.

And very healthy.

It is a political statement, a refuge from sexism, and an opportunity to show that women can be self-sufficient (Boston marriages, anyone?)

At the same time, she distances herself from the category:

I’m sure someone out there will read this article and imagine that I am writing in the defensive, at home on a Saturday night, curled up on my couch in a Hello Kitty onesie, eating a Lean Cuisine, and watching reruns of The Bachelor while I sob quietly under a blanket of cats…

And because trolls love Everyday Feminism (aw, thanks, trolls!), these retorts will likely include cliché misogynist words like “man-hater,” “ice queen,” “slut,” “manster,” or “hag.”

They will say these things even though they have never met me.

They will say these things even though I haven’t even said that I am single!

Of course she isn’t single, or she might be, but either way she isn’t writing about her own pain!  She is, of course, also upset that she is stereotyped for being single, as she explains earlier in the post:

Single women are routinely ostracized at work, stigmatized within their families, and stereotyped by the larger community.

I’m sure it’s happening right now – to me.

She cleverly must mean her own audience is (accurately or inaccurately) stereotyping her.  And of course since she didn’t say she is single, the pain she writes of can’t be her own (whether she is single or not).  Kreitler stands with single women, just not so closely that she will be identified as one herself.  Single women should stand proud in their singleness, unless of course it is too painful to admit.

Katy Kreitler is a Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism as well as a counselor and youth advocate. She can be found wandering the streets of San Francisco with a purse full of used fiction, a pair of emergency yoga pants, and half a burrito.

One last nugget from the article is Kreitler describing the way women view single women, including divorcees (emphasis mine):

We reproduce notions of the ticking biological clock, the unfulfilling career path, the predatory divorcee, and the crazy cat lady.

We shame each other. We shame ourselves.

And we have done so for centuries.

And by centuries, she means thousands of years:

So, for thousands of years, we believed these ideas about single women being lost, alone, unhappy, sad, and even dumb and ugly.

As Kreitler explains women have done this to other women for thousands of years/centuries not because of biology, but because the patriarchy tricks them into doing so.  Keep up the good work gentlemen, and Merry Christmas!

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44 Responses to Crazy cat lady logic

  1. Opus says:

    Heroic woman shuts down comments at bastion of Misogyny.

  2. Anonymous Reader says:

    The first step is to admit that you have a problem. The second step probably is not to insist that problem is caused by everyone and anyone else.

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  4. Merry Christmas to you too Dalrock! Have a great day tomorrow!

  5. Keep up the good work gentlemen, and Merry Christmas!

    To you as well. To ALL of you, a very Merry Christmas!

  6. pukeko60 says:

    Merry Christmas. And have a day off.

  7. Casey says:

    Merry Christmas Dalrock.
    Enjoy your family!

    You are truly doing the Lord’s work

  8. thedeti says:

    Chris:

    I saw your post at Dark Brightness. God Bless.

    And when you get to a safe place, have a glass of whiskey. You’ve earned it.

  9. MarcusD says:

    ‘He punched me to the ground in front of our children’: Victim reveals how she escaped violent husband as figures reveal Christmas is peak time for domestic abuse
    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2883375/Victim-reveals-escaped-violent-husband-figures-reveal-Christmas-peak-time-domestic-abuse.html

  10. MarcusD says:

    Merry Christmas and happy new year to all.

  11. Merry Christmas to you too! And some people who stop by here aren’t Christians if I remember right so happy holidays!

  12. earl says:

    Merry Christmas!

  13. earl says:

    ‘As Kreitler explains women have done this to other women for thousands of years/centuries not because of biology, but because the patriarchy tricks them into doing so.’

    Why blame your fellow woman and get kicked out of the tribe…when it is so much easier to blame a man.

  14. Carnivore says:

    Merry Christmas!

  15. QA_NJ says:

    A lot of this romanticism of single women, childlessness, and so on could be solved by a trip to a local nursing home. Go for a visit and ask to spend some time with women who never married, have no children, and so on, especially if they have no nephews and nieces who they were close too. I was very close to my two never married aunts and my two cousins also helped out a great deal, but given the (literally) life and dead decisions I had to make for them at the end of their lives, I see the many ways it could have gone very badly for them if they didn’t have relatives to watch out for them. No, the staff at the nursing home isn’t going to care about you like family and they are going to care even less if you never have any family show up to see how you are doing. And, no, you aren’t going to be young forever.

  16. DeNihilist says:

    TRP, it is MERRY CHRISTMAS, cuz paraphrasing Popeye, “it yis wut it yis!”
    So a Merry Christmas to Dalrock and all of the guys who hang here and comment here. A beautiful community of Christians and Pagans!

  17. tz2026 says:

    The two endgames for most women were modeled by Mary, Virgin and Mother. Feminists hate both. “Single” in this context might simply mean unescorted.

    If you aren’t dedicated to God as a virgin, and aren’t reproducing the species, you will reproduce anything:

    “We reproduce notions of the ticking biological clock, the unfulfilling career path, the predatory divorcee, and the crazy cat lady.

    Archetype, Stereotype, or large bins of statistical classification?

    The ticking bioclock is science. Women have an expiration date for motherhood.
    The un-fulfilling career path – both the path and the end. It is also known as “the rat race”. Men once ran it so women didn’t have to. Now that they are competing on the same basis, some men aren’t even bothering – Mancaves, Fishing/Hunting and Harleys are far lower maintenance.
    Predatory divorcee? Cougar. There is something about wanting a(n alpha) man to want them.
    The crazy cat lady is what is left when there is nothing else. “Would you give up your cats to marry a (good but not exciting) man?”. Q.E.D.

  18. ballista74 says:

    Enjoy your holiday season – not just tomorrow but the whole time!

  19. greyghost says:


    Merry Christmas

  20. easttexasfatboy says:

    GreyGhost, take a bow, Sir. The cat meme was hilarious. I’ve worked for some older “wall” women before. The idea of them married is ludicrous. MGTOW is the best way for me. I work around women, but they ain’t all that anymore. Life is quieter. Funny thing is that I’m growing indifferent. Oh well…..have a good Christmas.

  21. Spike says:

    Merry Christmas, Dalrock. Many thanks for running this blog, a forum for truth and an inspiration.
    It isn’t just Ms Kreitler who peddles this. Shere Hite and Susan Faludi have used bogus statistics to tell women, over and over that they are better off single.
    Many of Hite/Faludi’s studies are quoted by educated women. Yet these same women will tell you that they “had better get on with it” – referring to relationships and childbirth – since they are 35 “and not getting younger”. Thus, a man should immediately impregnate them upon marriage, after a long career of their one night stands, F-buddy arrangements, on-and-off romances and “glamorous careers”. Should the man fail to get home, provision and pregnancy right, of course, it’s his fault.

    The “single life affirmation” described above is the final gasp of the woman who knows that the game is up and no one wants her. It isn’t time to admit failure, but rather time to double down, embrace failure as validation that no man was good enough and defiantly stick it out to the bitter (emphasis intended) end.
    it is possible that relations between the sexes are now so bad that the penny will drop. I live in this hope for the NewYear.

  22. Mark says:

    Merry Christmas to Dalrock and all the posters here.

  23. JF says:

    Bring back the patriarchy.
    Allow the most successful men to have more than one wife, a la Abraham and Jacob, et al.
    No more crazy cat ladies. They might be cleaning dishes, but hey, they’ve got a husband and they’re no longer alone. They have a purpose in life.
    You see how the patriarchy fixes everything?

  24. Yogi says:

    The problem with her article isn’t the logic, or the half cooked justifications about gender roles and oppression by the boogeymen. It’s the unmitigated selfishness. The entire post is one example after another of how a person can pursue his or her own desires and material ends without interference.

    Denying that loneliness is real, sucks and unhealthy is pure foolishness, but it’s pure stupidity to think the answer lies in making your life a monument unto itself. Loneliness is cured by having real relationships with other people. Any healthy relationship is better than isolation (to be distinguished between healthy time alone). And there are many ways to form healthy relationships with different types of people. However, they all require that you invest of your time and self in the other people. A supremely selfish person surrounded by sycophants is still a lonely, sorry person.

    The problem with the article is that is advocates for people to be solely self concerned. That is not the answer, and sure to push you into a hole of bottomless loneliness.

  25. Jason Ellis says:

    Merry Christmas. There is still a long way to go. you will get there.

  26. Bluepillprofessor says:

    Nice Christmas joy link Marcus D. Love this quote: “If you change the way you behave because you’re scared of how your boyfriend or husband will react, he is abusing you,”

    So that means every guy who is learning married game to deal with their wives is being abused because they are changing their behaviors based on how our wives react. Got it. Wait, it only works for women. How does that work again?

    Last one out of this broken country don’t even bother to turn out the lights.

  27. jgarveyrose says:

    Merry Christmas, brother. God Bless!

  28. totenhenchen says:

    The lady doth definitely protest too much, methinks.

  29. craig says:

    Somewhat off-topic:

    Did anyone else see the Forty Portraits in Forty Years NYT piece (which was linked at Instapundit)? It’s a collection of yearly black-and-white portraits, each showing the same four sisters in the same order left to right. (From the locations given for the photos, the expensive plainness of the women’s dress, and their severe demeanor, it’s a documentary of East Coast old-money WASP style and habits.) The sisters are of average looks; each could be fixed up to look good with a little makeup and feminine clothes, but none is a raving beauty.

    But it’s mainly interesting here as a visual confirmation of The Wall. The initial 1975 photo is said to have been taken near one of them’s graduation, so that puts their initial average age as about 20 then. I’d guess #3 from the left is the oldest, followed by #1, #4, and #2 as the youngest. Fast-forward to the mid-1980s and you can see each start hitting The Wall in that order, a year or two apart, right on schedule.

  30. That whole article is a laundry-list of excuses and rationalizations. If it weren’t she wouldn’t have needed to write it in the first place. Basically, it’s a five-step guide on how to lead a life of selfish and impulsive instant gratification.

    Everydayfeminism is a wretched hive of scum and villainy.

    I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas with their families and other loved ones.

  31. Stallywood says:

    To imply that a woman must get married, to be an actual person, is BS. I am an anti feminist to the core, but this thinking is garbage. A woman is free to live her life as she chooses, and if marriage is not in her plans, she is not the lessor for it. It is not a duty of a woman, to get married right out of High School, and pump out children. This is why Christians get no respect.

  32. The Jack Russell Terrorist says:

    This is a gift for any career chicks who like cats.
    http://mcphee.com/shop/crazy-cat-lady-action-figure.html
    A little late for Christmas.

  33. BradA says:

    We like cats in our house, but this still brought a chuckle to my wife and I greyghost.

    A belated Merry Christmas to all!

  34. JF says:

    There are some reasons why so many 40-ish women are involuntarily single in America today.
    And there are some reasons why so many 40-ish men are voluntarily single in America today.
    And as coincidence would have it, they’re the same reasons.

  35. zodak says:

    this reminds me of the girl who wrote that her N count of past sexual partners was not something to be ashamed of, she then proceeded not to admit hers!

  36. craig says:

    “A woman is free to live her life as she chooses, and if marriage is not in her plans, she is not the lesser for it.”

    But if you want not to be thought lesser, you have to live for something, be it for God, family, science, art, or whatever. The critique here is of a mindset that celebrates living merely for oneself, which is hedonism by any other name.

  37. The critique here is of a mindset that celebrates living merely for oneself, which is hedonism by any other name.

    No, no, that’s what it’s called when men do it. When women live for themselves, that’s empowering, and it makes the world a better place for everyone.

  38. Lyn87 says:

    Stallywood says,

    A woman is free to live her life as she chooses…

    Okay… but feminism neglects to tell women the caveat that goes along with that declaration – the caveat that males are forced to learn and relearn from the cradle onward:

    You are free to make choices in life but you are not free from the consequences of those choices.

  39. Boxer says:

    Jack Russell Terrorist sez:

    This is a gift for any career chicks who like cats.

    HAHAHAHAHAHA! Love how it’s sold out.

  40. GeminiXcX says:

    @Stallywood
    -“To be an *actual person*”
    -“It is *not the duty*. . . and *pump out children*.”
    Now where have I heard these types of phrases before?😀

    “I am an anti feminist to the core”
    -Unsure how you have managed to convince yourself of this.

    Any wood I may have had just went Stally.
    Sorry princess, I have no interest in seriously indulging this high a level of snowflake. Your online “wisdom” would be better served elsewhere. This is why feminist trolls get no respect.

    -GXcX

  41. greyghost says:

    Stallywood
    You are the definition of the modern woman and you are absolutely right. Your choice to not marry is a huge cut above the divorced cunts out there that have given the emotional and logical reason for the creation of the manosphere. Measured against todays women, the law, and reality you are a gem. Your attitude and life choice makes you unmarriageable and unworthy of commitment. A red pill man will see you for what you are and will be a nice booty call. Blue pill men and romantics still trying to save society will try and show you how wrong you are. I say you have vetted yourself in advance and have chosen a path that does not sacrifice a man and a child for that I say you are a gem.
    As lyn87 mentioned choices have consequences

  42. Luke says:

    Stallywood says:
    December 27, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    To imply that a woman must get married, to be an actual person, is BS. I am an anti feminist to the core, but this thinking is garbage. A woman is free to live her life as she chooses, and if marriage is not in her plans, she is not the lessor for it. It is not a duty of a woman, to get married right out of High School, and pump out children. This is why Christians get no respect.”

    No respect from whom? All the nonreligious liberals they’re outbreeding? The future belongs to those who show up for it, and the liberals won’t be there. FYI, you have to be alive to have an opinion…

  43. JustSomeGuy says:

    @ Luke:

    Liberalism, atheism, and the various other mindsets common to modernity generally don’t reproduce by literally reproducing. They reproduce by conversion.

    I come from a very large orthodox Catholic family. I have an enormous mess of cousins. Exempting a couple community college classes on the side, I went to very good orthodox Catholic schools for my entire education.

    Keeping that background in mind, it disturbs me how many of my cousins and old school-friends have been converted away to various modern fallacies despite receiving such orthodox upbringings and educations; and I’m hardly the only one with that story.

    One of evil’s greatest powers is its ability to seduce – especially when you don’t even realize you’re being seduced. We need to get better at protecting our children from modern mind-traps before we can simply “outbreed” modernity.

  44. JDG says:

    One of evil’s greatest powers is its ability to seduce – especially when you don’t even realize you’re being seduced. We need to get better at protecting our children from modern mind-traps before we can simply “outbreed” modernity.

    Yep! This bears repeating:

    If you send your children to Caesar’s indoctrination centers, why are you surprised when they turn into servants of Caesar?

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