In my last post I shared the latest stats on marriage for white women in the US. The key takeaway is that it seems very likely that a large number of women intending to only delay marriage will end up losing out on the opportunity to marry. The very fact which makes young women delaying marriage feel safe (so many of their peers are doing the same thing) is ironically the source of the risk.
But what if you are a woman who wants to marry? How can you make use of this information? The first thing you need to do is memorize all of the following bits of folk wisdom:
- You have all of the time in the world.
- God has the perfect man already picked for you, and He will reveal this man in His time.
- The last one down the aisle wins.
- “Having a fabulous single life leads to an even better marriage later” (see link above for source)
- Now is the time to travel, date lots of men, and find yourself!
- Never settle!
Get a set of notecards and write all of these sayings down on them and keep the cards with you at all times. This is critical, because when one of your peers starts talking about getting off the carousel and taking her husband hunt seriously, you will need these sayings to talk her out of it. Right now you have information which the market hasn’t fully processed; you need to keep it that way while you snatch up the best available man.
Don’t settle; get the best husband you can.
The last piece of folk wisdom in the bullet list above is actually correct, but you can use it to confuse your competition. It doesn’t have to work forever, it just has to stun her for a bit while you take care of business. Instead of settling, what you want to do is figure out what your priorities are, and then compare those against your legitimate marriage prospects.
As a thought exercise, imagine the best husband you can reasonably expect to attract. Think of the actual marriage proposals you have received in the last few years. If you have none for reference, you will need to be painfully honest about which of the men who expressed interest in you were likely to want to marry you. The more honest you are here the better a head start you will have over your peers. Now imagine this best case husband. If you look closely, you will notice other women around him. That’s right:
Those bitches are trying to steal your man!
Now that you understand what is going on you need to also consider the risks. Like the salmon in the picture your path to find a mate is known by others. This is especially true if you’ve waited until the last minute. Not all men in the dating market are interested in marriage. You need to make sure you don’t waste your time with these men while the bitches are busy stealing your man. This is why being honest about the kind of man you can attract for marriage is so crucial. Men like Marcos are looking for greedy marks who themselves are looking to con an unsuspecting man into marriage with the early offer of sex. Don’t focus on the too good to be true men, because they probably are.
The last piece of advice I’ll offer is to expand your net. If you have been assuming that you will be meeting better marriage prospects in the future, scrutinize that assumption. If there is reason to still believe this, what can you do to make this happen today? You don’t want to rush into a marriage you or your husband won’t be willing to stick with, but you do want to find a way to expedite the arrival of the mystery man you have so far been patiently waiting for. This might mean moving to another city or even state, but it could just be getting more involved in activities where you think your future husband is likely to meet you.
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Bear photo by Azov.