I stumbled on a post by Captain No Marriage recently which makes me think I have been remiss: Newsflash: Marriage Sucks ……Still! (crass site warning). It starts off describing a scene all too familiar:
While talking to a buddy of mine today in my office, we heard the shrill sound of a old hag’s voice as it carried across the office “All men are stupid!”
Actually this particular warpig loves to frequently complain about how stupid her husband is and about how lost he’d be without her. This of course gets the other dried up hens echoing the same brainless chatter.
While I might have worded it differently, I have to say I’ve witnessed similar scenes. I even agree to a large extent with his next point:
The real joke is on these typical loud mouth American bitches, too bad they’re drinking too much of their own kool-aid to figure it the f*ck out. They don’t have a husband, they have a hostage. A hostage who if he did decide to leave would be stripped of not just his current assets, but his future American bitchassets including his retirement!
The irony is that these women are miserable precisely because they got exactly what they thought they wanted. Not unlike Ms Belle, they are in a hell of their own creation.
What made me want to post on this however was this next bit:
Trust me, if marriage kicked ass you’d be hearing about it from your married friends. We’re not sitting on some fucking golden ticket here, let me tell ya!!! Have you ever had one of your buds talk about how ever since marrying his wife she goes to the gym more, loves blow jobs, can’t get enough sex, cooks dinner every night, doesn’t try to change him………you get the point.
That shit NEVER happens, especially the so called “perfect couple”, if you get the guy off to himself and a few beers in him he’ll open up about how little sex he really gets, about how he’s one minute away from financial ruin because of all her spending, basically he’ll tell you just how perfect they are NOT!
While not denying the reality that the Captain has witnessed, this isn’t the world I live in. At least it isn’t a complete picture of the world. I won’t go into TMI territory, but I don’t have any of the complaints as a husband that he is listing. My wife cooks nearly every day and is a fanatic about keeping herself in shape. The sex is great in every way. We laugh all the time and even after 16 years of marriage still stay up late talking about any topic you can imagine.
Every night I put our son to bed; no matter what is going on he always makes me laugh. Actually I make him laugh first by tickling him and he makes me laugh by being so contagious with his wide mouthed grin. If I am fixing or working on something, our daughter appears instantly to watch. It doesn’t matter if I’m fixing the dishwasher or tuning up the lawn mower; it is all fascinating to her.
My wife and daughter make me laugh too, especially when they play Barbies. It all starts with one of the Barbies announcing that she is trapped in marriage and needs to divorce to find herself. Then Hunter Ann lures the frivolous divorcée Barbie into the Divorcée Jam arena with promises of more alimony before driving over her in Scarlet Bandit. Shoes, handbags and designer hats all go flying in different directions. I need to get it on film one of these days but as you can imagine a good time is had by all!
I don’t always write about this kind of thing because it strikes me as potentially in poor taste. There are no shortage of men or women suffering because of the dysfunction feminism has wracked on our larger culture. But I also think that not talking about these things can be in poor taste as well. Blogger One STDV emailed me a while back asking if I wanted to weigh in on the anti marriage attitude in the manosphere. I struggle some with this because I don’t want to minimize the risks. As Athol Kay commented in response to my post on interviewing a prospective wife:
Good marriages are great. Bad marriages are terrible.
I would add that I also see a lot of marriages which are somewhere in between. I know wives who put up with profound betaness in their husbands and yet aren’t looking to cheat or divorce. I know other couples which are pretty happy, but could be amazingly happy if they made some basic changes. I also know couples where neither one knows anything about game but managed to achieve the same results just by trial and error.
For those of my readers who are happily married, I ask that you share your own experiences in the comments. None of this is to deny the bad cases we all have seen and read about, but we need to tell the good stories as well.