If you are like me, you know quite a few young men, parents, and young women who would benefit greatly from understanding the realities of attraction and the sexual marketplace. But even starting the conversation is very difficult. Once you see the bigger picture it is obvious, but how do you help someone understand something which goes against the grain of conventional wisdom? In reality most people aren’t open to change, especially if they are older.
But what if you know someone who is somewhat open to learning how things work? Where should you send them? There is an amazing wealth of knowledge in the manosphere, but sending someone to a blog is a dicey proposition. Blogs are a sort of ongoing conversation, so anyone new winds up feeling very much like they are coming in in the middle. By the time they understand enough of the jargon and concepts to understand one post, three more are already up. Plus many of the really good game sites are pretty edgy, to say the least. Someone who values marriage or long term relationships will have to sift through the more pickup focused stuff to find the nuggets of insight. Pretty much all of us went through this ourselves at one point or another, but convincing someone else to make the investment can be a difficult sell. You likely only get one shot, so you don’t want to risk them deciding they don’t want to hear any more about it.
So what should you do? What should I do? My wife and I know a number of men who really need to take the red pill. If my only choice was to send them to the manosphere, I would probably start with Athol Kay and Badger’s sites, and then expand from there after they got their feet wet. But as I said, this is a lot to ask someone new to walk themselves through.
Fortunately Athol Kay has solved my (and perhaps your) problem. As you no doubt already know he has written a book titled The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011. Books are the perfect format to introduce someone new to a world they were never told about. The format forces the author to define the key concepts and terms upfront, and the reader doesn’t get the feeling that they came in during the middle of the conversation. Also, Athol Kay is pro marriage, so you don’t have to worry about the pickup side turning off your pro marriage and/or religious friends or relatives. Additionally, from reading his blog you already know he is a master of his topic and a gifted writer with a fantastic talent at teaching what would otherwise be fairly complex ideas.
I’ve just placed a copy of his book in my amazon.com cart. As soon as I can find something to make the order size over $25 I’ll pull the trigger. Then I’ll read the book and decide which one of my lucky friends/relatives I’ll grace with a copy first.
Thanks Athol for your incredible dedication to helping other men and marriages. I hope you are richly rewarded for it.