Sharing Joy and Sorrow

I haven’t done a Brothers Grimm post in a good while, so I thought I would share this one.  Like the last one, it is short enough that it doesn’t require me to summarize it.  Also like the last one it features some dark humor along with the moral message.

There was once a tailor, who was a quarrelsome fellow, and his wife, who was good, industrious, and pious, never could please him. Whatever she did, he was not satisfied, but grumbled and scolded, and knocked her about and beat her. As the authorities at last heard of it, they had him summoned and put in prison in order to make him better. He was kept for a while on bread and water, and then set free again. He was forced, however, to promise not to beat his wife any more, but to live with her in peace, and share joy and sorrow with her, as married people ought to do. All went on well for a time, but then he fell into his old ways and was surly and quarrelsome. And because he dared not beat her, he would seize her by the hair and tear it out. The woman escaped from him, and sprang out into the yard, but he ran after her with his yard-measure and scissors, and chased her about, and threw the yard-measure and scissors at her, and whatever else came his way. When he hit her he laughed, and when he missed her, he stormed and swore. This went on so long that the neighbors came to the wife’s assistance. The tailor was again summoned before the magistrates, and reminded of his promise. Dear gentlemen, said he, I have kept my word, I have not beaten her, but have shared joy and sorrow with her. How can that be, said the judge, as she continues to bring such heavy complaints against you. I have not beaten her, but just because she looked so strange I wanted to comb her hair with my hand. She, however, got away from me, and left me quite spitefully. Then I hurried after her, and in order to bring her back to her duty, I threw at her as a well-meant reminder whatever came readily to hand. I have shared joy and sorrow with her also, for whenever I hit her I was full of joy and she of sorrow, and if I missed her, then she was joyful, and I sorry. The judges were not satisfied with this answer, but gave him the reward he deserved.

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4 Responses to Sharing Joy and Sorrow

  1. Badger says:

    “As the authorities at last heard of it, they had him summoned and put in prison in order to make him better.”

    Come on Dalrock, now you are really spinning yarns. Everyone knows men were legally allowed to beat their wives until feminism came along.

  2. terry@breathinggrace says:

    @ Badger:

    Everyone “knows” men were legally allowed to do all kinds of things to their wives, not to mention sell their daughters, before feminism.

    This was an interesting tale, Dalrock. Thanks for the education.

  3. Dalrock says:

    Good point Badger. Feminists have spun a pretty fantastic alternate reality.

    Glad you liked it Terry. I think the tale is meant to be a caution to both men and women. Men are cautioned not to mistreat their wives, and women are cautioned of the risk of marrying someone who is likely to act like the Tailor did.

  4. Blue Blazer says:

    This is rather dull.Sdaedalus throws in some old portraits and BOOM!Just a thought.

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