Don’t expect rational debate/discussion.
Be prepared to discuss the underlying issue at all times, and always do what you can to move the conversation back to the actual topic. But don’t expect the feminist to actually want to discuss the issue beyond their well practiced opening salvo and a few slogans.
This will get personal
This is how the far left debates. In the former Soviet Union they would tie an idea they disliked with a person in the public’s mind, and then literally destroy the person. Fortunately in most of the west they can’t yet do this to us, so they have to settle for destroying us verbally, etc. But don’t ever kid yourself into thinking they wouldn’t do it for real if they had the chance.
You will be duped into adopting rules which only apply to you.
The sooner you acknowledge this, the sooner you can stop letting them do it to you.
Expect a temper tantrum.
That’s so sexist!
This will be your first indication that you are winning the debate. Don’t take the bait and join their emotional level. This is what they are hoping for.
You will be shamed and scolded.
You wouldn’t make that argument if you had a bigger penis.
They won’t listen to what you are saying.
This is fine. The reality is you aren’t trying to change the feminist’s mind. Your objective should be to change the minds of those reading the debate who might be open to your arguments. Recognize that the logical folks reading likely already get it, or will quickly get it without you repeating it over and over. So make a logical case, but focus more on the emotion driven segment of the audience. The feminist herself is just a prop. If she behaves badly, all the better.
This isn’t an arms race.
They will try to silence you.
Every argument, word, phrase, metaphor, etc you use in making your case will be deemed wildly offensive to women. This will be the case even if you are using the same terms they are. Use good judgment, but don’t be afraid of them calling you names. Be aware of the site you are on and how easily moderators will be duped by this strategy, and take that into account as you frame your arguments.
They will try to end the debate.
When attempts to silence you fail, the feminist has only one more option. She will try to scuttle the whole discussion. Sometimes this is as easy as her going on a profanity laced tirade which causes the moderator to decide that “The debate has gotten out of hand”. There isn’t much you can do about this except be aware of it. Other times the moderators won’t take the bait immediately, so the feminist will try to goad you into a strictly personal tit for tat insult session. Trading barbs with feminists while still making a point is one thing, but you falling into this trap is their best shot at terminating the discussion. Don’t fall for this trick.