Sentence first; verdict afterwards.

SkylerWurden scoffed at my assertion that the 70 fold increase in RCC annulments in the US after the 1960s* represents a important shift in RCC thinking on the permanence of marriage.  He revised his calculations several times, but he seems to have finally landed at an estimate that around 7% of Catholic marriages end up being annulled.  Yet the crux of his argument remained the same.  There are simply too few annulments in the US to have a meaningful impact:

This is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever read period and easily rhe dumbest thing Dalrock has ever written.

1.2 billion Catholics worldwide. In 2007 there were 58,322 annulments, worldwide.

Round that up to 60 thousand.

60 thousand is .00005% of 1.2 billion.

So the scourge of ‘Catholic divorce’ currently affects .00005% of worldwide Catholics yearly. It’s an epidemic! A terrible tidal wave sweeping across Catholicism! Look at those numbers and weep in despair!

Seriously, this is retarded.

Yes, it is definitely retarded.

Also, another correction!!!!

Catholic “divorce” (Annulment) rate is actually closer to 7%

Leaving the question of the actual percentage aside, the problem with his argument is that the US annulment tribunals have by decades of practice taught all American Catholics that a very large percentage of what they think are marriages aren’t actually binding.  More specifically, the lesson that has been taught is that your own marriage might not actually be a marriage at all, and your vows are only binding if you think they are binding.  This of course fits right in with our divorce revolution, as nearly every divorcée will be quick to assure you that her divorce wasn’t a “real” divorce, because her marriage was never a “real” marriage in the first place.

Even worse, the RCC teaches that annulments merely are a formal recognition that the marriage never was binding. They aren’t “granting” an annulment, they are investigating and then declaring what was always true.  Getting an annulment is merely a formality. As others pointed out on the same post, many divorced Catholics simply marry again outside the RCC. The explosion in annulments hasn’t just destabilized the marriages of 7% of Catholics. It has destabilized the marriages of all Catholics.

But SkylerWurden denies this as well:

That’s just poor theological understanding. The marriage is assumed valid until “proven” otherwise. The divorcee can say they don’t think marriage is permanent all they want now, what matters is what they thought about it on the day of their marriage. If a person never intended to keep the vow, then God didn’t consecrated the vow. That seems pretty simple and straightforward to me. That doesn’t destroy the Catholic marriage or add instability, it just recognizes the destruction that already occurred: if people treat marriage like a 7-year shack-up then God isn’t going to call it marriage and neither is the Church. Nor should they.

Technically he is correct, the stated position of the US tribunals is that a marriage is presumed valid until it is proven otherwise**.  But in practice (in the US and most countries) the tribunals betray the opposite belief.  If one party to a marriage believes the marriage isn’t valid, the tribunal insists that the first thing to be done is to get a divorce.  Only then, after the required divorce, will the tribunal take up the question of whether the marriage was really a marriage.  As Robert J. Kendra explains in Defending Families Against Forced No-fault Divorce: American Annulment Mills (emphasis mine):

A worse problem for the Church is complicity in promoting divorce.  A conscientious petitioner (the party seeking the annulment) would first seek an annulment to be assured that no valid sacramental marriage existed, prior to seeking a civil divorce.  However, faced with this request, tribunal officials respond that a divorce is required prior to accepting an application for annulment, allegedly to assure that the marriage is irreconcilable.  But Jesus clearly condemned divorce even without remarriage, “Therefore, what God has joined together let no man put asunder” (Mk 10:9), and canon 1060 stipulates, “in doubt the validity of a marriage must be upheld until the contrary is proven.”  Therefore, a tribunal must prejudge the marriage to be invalid prior to judging its validity, in order to justify a divorce preceding an annulment.  Assurances of obtaining an easy annulment, given by the pro-annulment pastoral tribunals to perplexed petitioners (little or no effort is made toward reconciling the couple), actually precipitates the divorce.  Once divorce is granted, which is a given with no-fault divorce laws, the tribunal is programmed to grant an annulment.

Getting an annulment is rather like registering your purebred puppy.  It is a formality only required in specific circumstances.  For puppies registration is required to show or breed the dog.  For divorced Catholics an annulment is only required if you want to marry again in the RCC.  In both situations, it is a formality that in nearly all cases merely confirms what you already thought was the case.  Not surprisingly, after the initial explosion of annulments taught American Catholics the reality of the RCC’s new (practical) view of the permanence of marriage, over the decades US Catholics have become less and less inclined to go through the formality of requesting an annulment after divorcing:

The result has been an increase from 338 annulments in 1968, to 5,403 in 1970,   to a peak 61,945 in 1991.  Since then, the explosion has stabilized at around 40,000 U.S. annulments per year.  However, these commonly quoted statistics implying a recent decline are deceiving.

Tribunals are not getting tougher on granting annulments.  They are getting fewer petitions for annulments, probably due to divorced Catholics cohabitating and not bothering with annulments.  Since 1964 the tribunals have consistently ruled for annulment in about 97 percent of the cases they accept.  Seventy percent of annulments worldwide are accounted for by American marriage tribunals though the U.S. has a mere six percent of the world’s Catholic population.

*Using the data presented in the original post from the Archdioceses of Boston showing that the Boston tribunal had gone from issuing 10 declarations in 1968 to 700 in 1996. The national data presented above shows that the jump for all of the US was an even larger 183 fold from 1968 to 1991 (338 to 61,945)!

**Just like the stated position of the family courts is that the whole process is about what is best for the child, and is not biased against fathers.

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Militantly clueless

Feminism (and the larger SJWism) has spread with the assistance of Conservatives who are not just clueless, but militantly clueless. If someone points out the culture war, they say lighten up Francis, or they smugly accuse them of not understanding what is really going on in the larger culture (you must not get out much!).  Sure your group is infected with the disease, but mine is immune!  As a result feminism and gay marriage and gender bending complete their long march through the institutions, while Conservatives stand watch to make sure no one notices or responds.

GK Chesterton famously wrote:

The whole modern world has divided itself into Conservatives and Progressives. The business of Progressives is to go on making mistakes. The business of Conservatives is to prevent mistakes from being corrected. Even when the revolutionist might himself repent of his revolution, the traditionalist is already defending it as part of his tradition. Thus we have two great types — the advanced person who rushes us into ruin, and the retrospective person who admires the ruins. He admires them especially by moonlight, not to say moonshine. Each new blunder of the progressive or prig becomes instantly a legend of immemorial antiquity for the snob. This is called the balance, or mutual check, in our Constitution.

This is true. But there is an earlier stage Chesterton didn’t mention, the stage where the Progressives are in the process of making the mistakes, and the Conservatives are telling everyone to lighten up, nothing is happening.

Note:  This started as part of a comment in reply to Derek Ramsey, but strikes me as worth posting separately as well.

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It’s a man, baby!

In my previous post I originally assumed that Pastor Donald Sensing’s “eldest” was his daughter.  I made this assumption based on his very awkward phrasing in praise of his eldest child’s book, and the fact that while his “eldest” was drawing on “the author’s” combat experience as a Marine in Iraq, the main character of the book is a female (space) Marine:

I hope you will indulge a “proud dad” moment for me in providing the link to my eldest’s first novel on Amazon, Winter Three, a military sci-fi tale of far future Marines landing on their homeworld to wrest it back from the bad guys. It went live on Kindle today. It does rely quite a bit on the author’s experience as a US Marine in the Iraq War (Fallujah and environs, 2005-2006) and pays homage to Heinlein. It’s only $1.99, so give a vet a break and buy it!

The bolded references, especially the second one, are very awkward.  Pastor Sensing uses similarly awkward language in the disclosure he includes at the bottom of his Amazon review of the book:

Disclosure: Saintsing is a variant of my own last name; the author and I are related. But this is my honest, kid-you-not opinion of the book.

Who writes like that?  Moreover, his consistency in this regard is striking. From his 2007 Bio page*, he has a son, a daughter, and an eldest:

I married the former Catherine Stephens of Durham, N. C., in 1980. We have three children, the eldest is a former U.S. Marine and Iraq veteran, the second is a physician in the US Air Force’s Medical Corps. His wife is a civilian doctor. Our third child, a daughter, is a chemical engineer.

In a recent post on his blog titled Four Veterans, Sensing remains cagey when describing the picture of his eldest child:

This is our eldest, Lance Cpl. S. M. Sensing, USMC, who deployed to Iraq on the date shown in the photo, shown at Camp Lejeune, NC, with Cathy.

This is not the case when Sensing describes his middle child in the same post:

Dr. (Capt.) Thomas Sensing is in surgical residency at Wright-Patterson AFB, Ohio, in the US Air Force Medical Corps. As a retired officer, I administered his oath of commissioning upon his graduation from medical school in 2016, one of the most memorable and fulfilling things in my life.

Based on the picture of Lance Cpl. S. M. Sensing in the Four Veterans post, he does appear to be a man.  But Sensing’s blog post A rollicking good sci-fi read about his eldest’s book is just as cagey about the child’s sex as all of the other examples I had previously found:

If a combat-vet US Marine were to write a short novel about far-future Marines mounting an assault to recapture their home world from the bad guys, and wanted to give homage to Robert Heinlein at the same time, what would it be like?

It would be like Winter Three, now on Kindle, a novella by my eldest, former US Marine Lance Corporal S.M. Saintsing (pen name for the book).

The cover picture shows a woman (space) Marine dressed in full battle regalia.

However, the link at the bottom of the quote points to a republication of a post Pastor Sensing wrote back in 2005.  Back then Sensing did what normal fathers do when writing about their sons (emphasis mine):

Yesterday my eldest son, Lance Cpl. [S.] Sensing, deployed with his unit to Iraq. His mother, brother, sister and I traveled to Camp Lejeune, NC, to see him off. Cathy’s dad, from Durham, went with us also.

He was released Monday at 10 a.m. until noon Tuesday, so we had a very good visit with him. Then he and his unit drew weapons and gathered their sea bags at the barracks to await transportation. The time of departure slipped a couple of times, but not by much. They shipped out to Marine Corps Air Station Cherry Point, NC, on commercial buses about 30 minutes later than the originally scheduled time.

At MCAS CP they flew by chartered commercial air to Kuwait; I don’t know the route. Just as I was typing the last paragraph, [S.] called from Kuwait to report he arrived fine and there were no problems. He couldn’t talk but a moment, so that’s all the news we got, but it was wonderful to hear his voice and know all was well. He did say he doesn’t know just when they’ll move into Iraq. He does know where they will go, but I’m not going to include that here.

It could be that Pastor Sensing is cagey about his son’s sex because it is awkward that his son writes from the perspective of a woman.  This is a very mild form of gender bending in our SJW culture, but even in current year it is at least a little awkward.

All of this merely reinforces my point in my previous post.  Pastor Sensing smugly claimed that he (ze?) and others like him (hir?) were holding the line on traditional sex roles, and that if I or my readers thought that Christian culture was caving in this regard, well we must not get out very much…

Related: If you can’t feel the current, you have already been swept away.

*Anchorman pointed out that the repost of the same bio page on his new blog says he has two sons.

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Drowning in a sea of smugness.

In response to Women hardest hit commenter Micha Elyi smugly explained that the RCC’s hard line on divorce puts Protestants to shame:

Kind’a makes you think that King Henry VIII and Martin Luther were wrong and the Catholic Christians have been right about divorce all along.

God hates divorce so a mark of God’s true Church is its unwillingness to accept what God hates.

I would be inclined to agree with him, if the RCC wasn’t infected by a slightly different strain of the same disease Protestantism is infected with.

The RCC sees the explosion in destroyed homes in the US after the 1960s as progress, as justice. They just don’t call it divorce*. As the Archdioceses of Boston explains in its lengthy defense of the modern annulment process, the only problem is that the rest of the world hasn’t caught up with our divorce annulment revolution:

13. There are too many declarations granted in the United States – NO.
The United States vs. other countries

In the last twenty years, the numbers of declarations are much higher in this country than they had been in the past. Yet this is due to the fact that the procedural laws governing marriage cases were expanded in the late 1960’s. Cases no longer had to go to Rome. They could be adjudicated locally. The appellate system was also somewhat streamlined. Furthermore, Roman jurisprudence was expanded in the light of the teaching of the Second Vatican Council. Cases could be heard on new grounds of jurisprudence.

Tribunals across the United States are operative so that individuals may vindicate their rights. The bishops of our country have invested personnel and resources to ensure the church’s jurisprudence and procedural law are fulfilled. Unfortunately, such an investment in justice is not as evident in other parts of the world. This is why the numbers in the United States appear high. In fact they are skewed.

Think of the implications of this statement.  For 2,000 years the RCC got it wrong by not granting absurd numbers of annulments.  But along came the 1960s, and the RCC finally understood that the whole process needed to be… streamlined.  The same document explains that as a result of this streamlining, so many declarations of nullity are now issued that Catholics believe they are easy to obtain:

The misconception that it is thought to be easy may rest in the increased number of declarations over the past twenty years. In 1968 the Boston tribunal processed 10 cases involving defective consent. In 1996 the same tribunal processed over 700 of these cases. The increase is due to a substantial change in the procedural law of the church. Cases are heard locally rather than in Rome. They may also be handled by single judges, rather than a tribunal panel of three judges. However, the sentence of every case is sent to the Appeal Court and reviewed by a tribunal, i.e., a panel of three judges.

One way a marriage can be ruled to have defective consent is if one of the spouses thought marriage isn’t permanent.  What the RCC has effectively taught with this process is if you think marriage isn’t permanent, it isn’t.  Now canon lawyers wonder why so many Catholics think marriage isn’t permanent.  Why isn’t the laity getting the message?

Either this progress is what Elyi is so smug about, or he smugly has no idea what is going on regarding marriage in the RCC.  I don’t know which is worse.

While Elyi is Catholic, his smugness is no less common among Protestants.  When Instapundit linked to one of my posts on the topic of modern churches being corrupted by feminism, Pastor Donald Sensing smugly responded:

Maybe the author needs to get out more.

His church is different.  As a United Methodist pastor, he is fighting the good fight against SJWs and feminists.  He doesn’t see the rot I was writing about, so I must not get around much.  But how blind do you have to be if you are a United Methodist pastor and don’t see the rot all around you?  From Lesbian Bishop Calls Jesus a Bigot

United Methodist Church bishop Dr. Karen Oliveto is not only a lesbian, she also believes (and publicly teaches) that Jesus was a bigot filled with prejudices. She does say that Jesus grew and changed, and that’s her point. Bishop Oliveto admonishes, “If Jesus can change, if he can give up his bigotries and prejudices, if he can realize that he had made his life too small, and if, in this realization, he grew closer to others and closer to God, than so can we.”

Moreover, on a separate Instapundit post Pastor Sensing put in a plug for a book by his gender nondescript child:

Grateful for the link, Glenn, thanks!

I hope you will indulge a “proud dad” moment for me in providing the link to my eldest’s first novel on Amazon, Winter Three, a military sci-fi tale of far future Marines landing on their homeworld to wrest it back from the bad guys. It went live on Kindle today. It does rely quite a bit on the author’s experience as a US Marine in the Iraq War (Fallujah and environs, 2005-2006) and pays homage to Heinlein. It’s only $1.99, so give a vet a break and buy it!

What Pastor Sensing is carefully not disclosing with his gender neutral language is that his hard bitten combat veteran “eldest” is his daughter [Correction:  it is his son].

The smugness of men like Elyi and Pastor Sensing is all around us, and it is this very militant cluelessness that makes feminism possible in Christian culture.

*Instead, the RCC prefers the term annulment. Coincidentally, before you can request an annulment you have to first get a civil divorce.

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Dodgy data.

In my last post I quoted the NY Post/AP article on the number of women who are getting alimony:

How many people get alimony anyway?
Government statistics vary. The Census Bureau says 243,000 people got alimony last year, 98 percent of them women.

But I noticed today that the CNBC article I quoted in the same post gives a figure that is over twice as large:

In 2015, according to the data from the Internal Revenue Service, an estimated 598,888 taxpayers claimed the alimony deduction on their Form 1040, for a total of more than $12.3 billion.

If anything, I would expect the tax data to understate the number of men paying alimony, since some of them could be taking the standard deduction.

Granted, these are slightly different stats, since one is the number of payees (women) and the other is the number of payers (men).  But this would only line up if the average woman receiving alimony received it from more than two men.  It is much more likely that one of these sources is incorrect.  My bet is that the larger estimate is more accurate but still probably understates the real number.

Either way, child support is the defining feature of our modern family model, since it is the replacement for marriage whether or not a wedding has occurred.  Alimony is a vestige of the old system, and aside from some noteworthy exceptions appears to be on the way out.

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