I’m a happily married man living with my sexy wife and our two wonderful kids in the Dallas/Forth Worth area. I’m very interested in how the post feminist world impacts myself and my family, and am using this blog to explore these kinds of issues.
I hope you enjoy this blog and most of all take a few minutes to comment on any entries which interest you. Feel free to either agree or disagree, although I find I learn the most from those who disagree with me.
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I just found you via OneSTDV—great blog!
Thanks! Welcome to the blog!
I’m a long time reader of -1, and I’m really tickled that he chose to add me to his blogroll.
So no black people?
Hi there, here’s one
[D: Welcome!]
This site looks great; I can’t wait to read more.
A commentator on Roissy posted the following article, which is great fodder for your site: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/relationships/8140103/Why-are-so-many-married-women-having-affairs.html
fodder for your marriage posts: I love this site but why are the men in all the wedding pictures out of focus or cropped out?
http://www.oncewed.com/39156/wedding-blog/real-weddings/a-california-artists-wedding/
I’m disturbed by the implied self-centeredness and the idea that a wedding is perhaps just a prize for the gal to show off.
Hi Dalrock,
Here’s one for you if you’re interested;
http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.com/2011/03/economic-fail-of-century.html
Cpt.
A CHALLENGE TO THE MANOSPHERE!
I’m looking for the stories of men over 65. Such stories are an integral part of the collective wisdom of men.
Men over 65 have incredible experience.
Men over 65 have deep wisdom.
If the stories of such older men are not recorded, they will be lost forever.
I present a challenge to the manosphere.
Record the personal histories of those quite older men. Men only. Fathers, grandfathers, and uncles are perfect.
Do this before it’s too late.
These stories are vital for social history and for spreading wisdom.
To that end, I have created a part of my blog where these stories can be stored.
Some ground rules -
* Only men over 65 years old (Baby boomers need not apply unless there is some true wisdom and not shallow self-indulgence).
* Appropriate file formats if the story is recorded and linked to (Word, text, .WAV, .MP3, etc.)
* About another man (not you)
* Any theme is appropriate – work, politics, history, relationships, social history, anything. This is about the story of older men.
* If audio or video, the files must be easily heard/viewed. There is nothing worse than garbled audio and difficult to view video. If the file can’t be heard/seen, what’s the point?
If this project gets enough attention, I will personally find a way to publicize this effort.
Are you looking to find men for this project? Volunteer.
Volunteer at an active retirement community or nursing home just to listen to the stories and history of men in their later years. Volunteering is easy, put in a call in to the activities director and tell them you want to write or record the stories of the men. You will be welcomed and appreciated. I strongly recommend this to all men in the manosphere.
Use the Veterans History Project guidelines – http://www.loc.gov/vets/moreresources.html. There are great resources in the Veterans History Project.
I have a secondary website where these stories
Christians question divorce rates of faithful
http://www.usatoday.com/news/religion/2011-03-14-divorce-christians_N.htm?csp=34&utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+Religion-TopStories+%28News+-+Religion+-+Top+Stories%29
[D: Thanks.]
Once Rare in Rural America, Divorce Is Changing the Face of Its Families
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/24/us/24divorce.html?pagewanted=1&ref=todayspaper
Hey Dalrock, I did not want to clutter up one of your most recent posts with this but I have a random question – is Texas a good place to meet young single males? I managed to get accepted at both UTexas Austin and Texas A&M, and they are both offering me full tuition. The thing is, I was also accepted at MIT on half-tuition, but one of the main reasons I was going to graduate school was to meet potential spouses. Feel free to email me if you don’t want to answer it here. I have heard good things and bad things about the spouse market in Texas, just thought I would ask someone with an MRA take on things.
Hi Helvetica,
Sorry for the delay in responding. I’m not sure I have much insight into the marriage market here, since I am married and met my wife in Colorado before we moved here. Susan Walsh did a post at HUS a while back titled The Importance of Location in Relationship Strategy. She ranked Texas in general, and Austin in specific as a great place for women to find men. She and I both guess that men in Texas are likely more manly (on average) than some other states. YMMV.
Good luck!
I just went back and read that Susan Walsh thread, looks like Boston is out! That’s ok, I was ambivalent about attending MIT anyway, I think they only let me in for diversity. It’s kind of weird to be an ethnic female, even though my ethnicity isn’t a typical “protected minority” class, you never know if you were a qualified applicant or if they just have a quota.
note the family structure
Mother and 3 Children Drown After Van Rolls Into the Hudson
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/04/14/nyregion/14newburgh.html?_r=1&hp
Hi Helvetica,
Funny coincidence. I’ve lived in both places. I went to STEM Central (MIT) in the early 90′s, and lived in Austin in the late 90′s.
Boston overall is a fantastic college town. At MIT, you’d definitely have a favorable male:female ratio, but they’d be STEM males, which is not the cup of tea for a lot of women. If it is for you, then you’d have a lot of selection, particularly if you have any measure of comfort in being feminine. However, if you like more “alpha” guys, well then it’ll likely be harder, since you’ll be targeting guys in other schools where there are usually more women, and the guys at those other schools don’t tend to prefer STEM women, even if they’re fairly physically attractive. One problem with MIT is the undergrad curriculum is fairly intense (I found grad school easier), so there will likely be less time to socialize than at a lot of other STEM schools. In my case it worked out, since I met my wife through (several layers of indirection) the friends I made while there.
Austin is a pretty cool town, lots of things to do. There are some STEM males (UT Austin, and a bunch of tech companies), but not as much as in Cambridge. However, there are a lot of attractive women there, so more competition (I was there before learning some Game principles, so didn’t partake much). More religious groups (even in Austin), so if you’re religious, it might be one way to proceed. San Antonio is an hour and half south, and has lots of Latino males, if that floats your boat. Texas A&M is a little isolated in College Station…I knew some friends who’d trek to Austin on the weekends.
Each place has its own advantages. Good luck!
Did you see the Logan interview. She talks about her children, one of them is only one! “I felt like I had been given a second chance that I didn’t deserve…because I did that to them. I came so close to leaving them, to abandoning them.”
Um, you came close to abandoning them? Try again, leaving your baby to work in a foreign country, IS a form of abandonment.
Dalrock:
here’s an article from MSN on June 16, 2011 about women who knew they were marrying the wrong guy before the weidding, and knew it, but went ahead with it anyway:
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/did-you-marry-the-wrong-guy-1?gt1=32092
Maybe this is fodder for another post on this subject. I know you’ve posted on this before but thought it would be interesting to read moer.
One woman said she married her husband, thinking he’d be a good husband and father, but he didn’t make her “heart race”. Another said she married her husband despite misgivings about his secrecy, but went through with it because she was busy “planning her dream wedding”.
[D: Thanks! It looks like they repackaged the same content as the Marie Clarie article on the same topic that I referenced here. I see this quite a bit. The worst most anti marriage content is echoed all over until they can be fairly certain they have saturated all of womanhood.]
You might be interested in these new articles
http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2011/06/3195
http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2011/06/3197
http://www.frontporchrepublic.com/2011/06/arguments-about-the-meaning-of-family/
Darlock,
i discovered the manosphere after reading the article kay hymowhateverthehellhernameis wrote regarding her “manning up” book. this was backin april. i spent the next month or so reading as many of the sites as i could, but primarily frequented/commented on Riv’s site. by may i was only hitting up riv’s, badger’s, yohami, keoni’s, your’s , and athol’s site. after some goading by Riv and mention’s by Badger and Yohami, i started my blog. i have you linked in the blogroll. i hope that’s alright.
again, great site.
Hey Dalrock I’m 18, a Christian girl and from a non-Western background. I will probably only stay 3-4 years in the USA and then go back to either my father’s country or my mother’s country to live since the West is in decline. Cheers.
http://alcestiseshtemoa.wordpress.com/2011/06/08/college-plan-while-in-the-usa-nursing-degree-major-and-philosophy-minor/
Dal:
Do you have an email address? You can respond to my email I use for my ID.
Dalrock,
Love your site. Keep up the good work.
There is an interesting article at Wall Street Journal which perfectly exemplifies the me-ism of Gen-Xers (http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303544604576430341393583056.html?mod=WSJ_hp_MIDDLENexttoWhatsNewsTop#articleTabs%3Darticle).
Be sure to read through the comments. Many of them reinforce many of the points you make. One of the saddest among them is below:
Michael Trian:
“I have often said that my parents threw 4 perfectly good children in the trash that day”
Divorce is a very very selfish act. I am not a child of divorce – my parents were married for 50 years until the death of my mother – but I am a divorced father. I pleaded with my ex to save the marriage, trying to convince her of the effects it will have on our three daughters, and that working and saving the marriage will instill in our girls that perseverance, not quitting, is the correct life path – but to no avail. Rather, she listened to “friends” who convinced her that “it’s all about YOUR (her) happiness”.
I read somewhere that in over 90% of divorce cases, the spouse wanting the divorce has a lover.
Sadly, I will feel sorry for whomever chooses to marry my daughters.
Regards,
Nathan
Hey Dalrock I want to see you take on this
http://www.good.is/post/how-marriage-and-divorce-can-tip-the-scales-for-men-and-women/
hamster wheeling at its worst. It claims that women gain more weight once they get married than men because marriage is biased towards men, and other silly claims.
[D: That has to be one tired hamster.]
Why does a “happily married father” spend so much energy on the topic of divorced women?
[D: You are asking why I care. I would ask why you don't.]
Brigitte, because someone has to care and people must be held accountable for their choices. I would ask you the same, why don’t you care?
PS: Dalrock, that post you linked her to was awesome.
Dalrock, would a church that practices shunning and disfellowshipping, among other forms of real church discipline for divorce or unBiblical remarriage be a church that is serious about divorce, even if they didn’t post signs and figures?
Dalrock, found this floating around, thought you’d find it interesting; a perspective from the other side.
http://huntgatherlove.com/content/sex-ed-adults-chart-every-woman-should-see
Great blog
We have been married over 30 years. We have raised two children. The church deserted us with the handicapped kid–we kept going anyway. Men need to pay attention not to what they think their wives should need, but what they DO need. There would be less women divorcing them. Men have become accustomed to women putting the needs of the men and children first, but they are not willing to do the same. To me this is the problem. As for being in the post feminist era? I disagree and I will agree to be post feminist only in the post patriarchy.
Plus our marriage was considered and still is considered “good”. We have had our trials , but now he refuses to put my needs on the map. So I am getting out my own map. Scary yes, but better than slow death. I consider ourselves to be similar to the Gores. We just don’t want anything like the same thing anymore, it is no one’s “fault” and can’t be helped. We have done everything to save this marriage and it isn’t happening.
“Problems with Mixed-Race Marriages and Relationships”
http://sociobiologicalmusings.blogspot.com/2011/10/problems-with-mixed-race-marriages-and.html
This is interesting and probably helps to explain a lot:
http://www.bakadesuyo.com/game-theory-explains-the-constant-shortage-of
Dalrock, didn’t see a contact page, so I’m sending you this link here since I know you’d want to see this:
http://wmbriggs.com/blog/?p=4567
Dalrock, I was looking for your email. Just wanting to see if you would post on your blog about http://us.movember.com/?home (movember). It’s a charity event for Men’s Health. Something like this doesn’t seem to come up often… so I thought it would be something to spread the word about.
Love your blog by the way!
Morgri
Hi Dalrock,
While I have no religious beliefs myself (atheist), you’re on a roll with the latest articles on the role of the church in promoting frivolous divorce.
Following that same theme, I thought you might find the site of Gillis Triplett (Gillis Triplett Ministries) interesting. These articles in particular were fascinating to me as I began to ingest all of the red pill–
Have Modern Day Women Lost Their Minds?
http://www.gillistriplett.com/manhood/articles/modern.html
What Every Good Black Man Must Know About Surviving The Gender War
http://www.gillistriplett.com/manhood/articles/gender_war.html
Keep it the good work!
-Abydos
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Dalrock, this is another kate B like rant you might be interested in….
http://www.salon.com/2011/11/13/the_38_year_old_relationship_virgin/singleton/
I don’t know if you read these comments anymore, Dalrock. If you do, please let me know if my comments got out of line at the end of the Game for Pastors Part 1 article.
I can be contacted at: [Redacted]
[D: I haven't gotten through the most recent comments. I'll take a look later in the day. Thanks for your concern here. I pulled your email address because it shows up internally with the post and I don't want you getting spammed.]
Dalrock:
Here’s an article on msn.com, called “Fertility Math? Most women flunk, survey finds”
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/45262603/ns/today-today_health/
The money quotes/paragraphs:
Those numbers are exemplified by a series of high-profile births in older celebrities, including icons such as Kelly Preston (son at 48), Holly Hunter (twins at 47) and Jane Seymour (twins at 44.)
The famous mamas may or may not disclose whether they’ve used fertility aids, such as IVF or donated eggs, says Schoolcraft. That further contributes to the notion that it’s never too late to have a baby.
“It sends the message, if she can do it, then Miss Healthy Boring Me, I won’t have any trouble at 41 or 42,” Schoolcraft says.
The trouble is, such thinking can cheat a woman out of her options, Collura says. It’s one thing to postpone children in order to pursue education or a career, fully knowing it might be more difficult to get pregnant later. It’s another thing to be surprised by infertility.
“This is not about empowering women and women’s rights,” she says. “This is about science and biology 101.”
OT
I reckon you guys have the best advice out there 
Hey Dalrock, would you please consider writing an article somewhere along the lines of “top 10 things you can do to improve your marriage”?
I already asked Keoni Galt and will ask Athol Kay too, and I plan to combine all the material into the most important blogpost ever
If we could work together we could actually change the world. Or at least I could live in delusion
I wanted to give a thanks and hattip to you for the work you’re doing. Hopefully, I can get the young men I know to read sites like this and have their eyes opened. It has definitely helped open my eyes.
[D: Thanks, and welcome!]
My granny cut this article out of the papers (with scissors!) for me to post to you for blog fodder.
Divorce down % percentage generally though.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/law-and-order/8900870/Growing-number-of-over-60s-seeking-divorce.html
Dalrock,
Would you like a guest post on my observations on the recent Orthodox Jewish wedding I observed recently? Orthodox Jews, Amish, and Traditionalist Catholics are three groups outbreeding the dying secular west, and what I saw at this wedding (writing as an outsider to that faith) might give some answers on how to rebuild marriage in other denominations.
Contact me via my email address on this post.
Saw your note on the other post, you’re welcome, I’ll pass onto my granny.
I had a look to see what the Daily Mail had to say about it and their agony aunt not to impressed
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2065411/BEL-MOONEY-Splitting-past-60-selfish–stupid.html
Another link for ya, Dal. Look what made #1 on this list:
http://www.cracked.com/article_19564_6-based-true-story-movies-with-unpleasant-epilogues_p2.html
Nice blog, in addition many thanks for posting all the Solomon stuff, I never heard of him till you posted it. I recently just re-read it and I just got a quick favor to ask, any chance of you sending me the King Solomon posts that you were not able to upload, I’d love to check them out. Thanks man
This article from Henry Makow seems to be a scaled down version of what men are experiencing across the world expect in this article the Devil is the alpha male and Jesus is the beta male.
http://www.henrymakow.com/teen_girls_choose_devil_over_j.html
Just discovered your blog and I’m enjoying it very much…although not your use of the Traditional Conservative label, when you’re really talking about a feminized and enculturated creature who fall far short of both of those perfectly good words (despite his vaguely good intentions).
Be careful about ruining perfectly good words; remember “gay”.
New Article today on MSN:
“Marriage Rate at All Time Low”
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/my-married-life-blog-post.aspx?post=79079759-b1ff-4552-9336-e14b385c729d
Dalrock,
Please send me an email through the spearhead, then delete this message. I need your email address to discuss something with you off line.
zed
Dalrock
Two things, the first is thanks. Your blog is very helpful. Second, I have attached some statistics I found very interesting, enlightening, and uplifting.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_the_United_States
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statistics
less than 1% of american men commit rapes or sexual assault, fbi!
153,000,000 men in America, 191,670 number of reported rapes and sexual assaults (fbi)
let me say that again. less than 1% of american men commit rapes or sexual assault, fbi! the precise number is 00.00125!
rape culture is a joke!
And for some levity. Crazy Cat Lady – The Action Figure:
Amazon.com: Accoutrements Crazy Cat Lady Action Figure: Accou 11377: Toys & Games
Here’s an article that fits the subject matter – Good Christian Bitches – http://religionnerd.com/2011/03/13/abc’s-good-christian-bitches-makes-feminists-of-religious-right/
Dalrock,
I am just absorbing this merger of the manosphere with Christian masculinity. I agree with many points, but am trying to understand how one mergers the “a-hole-ness” of being alpha with the seemingly (sometimes) beta-ness of being Christ-like.
I waver between being sometimes alpha and sometimes beta in all kinds of relationships. This appears to be proper, depending on the relationship. However, when I consciously try to be more alpha, I have a tendency to unconsciously become self absorbed. Obviously, this does not bode well. Interestingly, people liked me much more when I went through a major depression and had no self esteem.
How do you balance having proper, healthy alpha-ness, a servant heart, and a balanced ego? Obviously the answer depends on the person, but what would be good reading?
Ivan Drago
I would temper this several different ways. Alpha doesn’t have to mean a-hole. It is as much about your frame as anything else. As a man you are expected to have things sorted out and know who you are and where you are going. There is much room in this sense for Christian alphaness. The image which comes immediately to mind is Christ in the temple with the money changers. Being a man who is a leader with solid convictions doesn’t mean shying away from conflict; you just need to make sure your convictions are correct first.
The other part is that everyone agrees that you need to mix in the right amount of alpha and beta traits. PUAs run hard alpha game because it works especially well on their target audience. Yet even Roissy writes about vulnerability game and contrast game. From what I’ve seen each woman needs a different level of alpha. Not being super alpha when looking for a wife strikes me as being to a man’s advantage for this reason; you tend to automatically sort out the women who need hard alpha game. It also should help you better gauge the real person and not just a woman who is under your spell.
Lastly, assuming the woman was attracted to you when you weren’t running hard game, you shouldn’t have to play a role you aren’t comfortable with to keep her happy as a wife. I think most men turn too beta not because they secretly want to be that way, but because our culture (including the church) is bombarding them with the message that this is how men who love their wives act. I’ve written about that here.
Hi Dalrock,
Iif already explored–can you suggest a post/ article on pornography being related to or stemming from negative treatment from the wife (such as nagging, withholding sex), where men were non-viewing/ non-participating UNTIL those situations, and turned to it as a release/ escape?
If not, could you write one up (yeah, just pull it out of the hat, right?)? I would LOVE to hear your input, and the input of lots of the commenters here.
grego
D,
I stumbled upon this. Weird man:
http://www.city-data.com/forum/miami/1157276-injustice-women-losing-custody-paying-child.html
Dalrock you should have a bit of a chat with Dave Murrow.
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0002510.cfm
“A) men are more sinful than women”
Boom. The guiding principle of modern women today. This idea has infected every single part of the protestant west and will be its doom. It is pervasive, and unstoppable.
That article is absolutely side-splitting hilarious:
“The single men who survive the screening process generally fit one of the following profiles:
1. The Bible geeks. Quiet, studious men who love to study theological tomes. Or verbal guys who love to teach.
2. The musical. They play in the band. Or they stand on the front row raising their hands during the music.
3. The asexual. Guys who are OK with kissing dating (and kissing) goodbye.
4. The predators. Guys who know there are plenty of desperate young women in church and enjoy trying to get them in bed.
5. The social misfits. Strange men who come to church because it’s the only place women will smile at them.
If you’re into these kinds of guys, then the church dating scene isn’t so bad. ”
Really selling me on that going to church thing pal. Well, if everyone thinks by being in church I’m one of the above 5, f- it I’m staying home and watching football! I wouldn’t be surprised if that article convinced more men to drop out of the church! After all, if you are viewed as a loser at the church, WHY NOT STAY HOME AND BE HAPPY!?!
Dalrock… manosphere alert
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/01/hooking_up_drunk_should_my_friend_call_her_one_night_stand_a_rape_.html
Man, you gotta see this. MALE engagement rings.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2068182/If-like-ring-Introducing-mangagement-rings–engagement-bands-MEN.html
Why are you missing the obvious? The women’s movement is run for the most part by sexually abused women.
You want to kill so called “feminism”? Do something about childhood physical and/or sexual abuse of girls.
And for the men: want to do something about crime and rampant drug use? Do something about childhood physical and/or sexual abuse of boys. Take a look at the wanted posters in your Post Office if you need reference material.
I don’t know why “Christians” can’t see this:
You want to do something about politics AND crime? Do something about PTSD.
There is a political party that caters to PTSD sufferers (drug users, the sexually ambivalent, the sexual deviant etc.) the Democrat Party. Now I don’t object to any of those behaviors from a principled stand point. They are adaptations.
What I do object to is that the Right is doing exactly zero to dry up the wellspring of its opposition. Child abuse.
Oh. The Right is perfectly happy to fight the symptoms. With negative results (how will the traumatized react to further trauma?). But dry up the well? Not even under the dimmest of consideration.
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How to gauge what is going on: About 20% of the population is susceptible to long term PTSD. About 10% of the population are alcoholics/drug users.
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Ah. Well. Americans (let alone Western Civ) are notorious for missing the obvious.
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And the rape statistics above? Multiply that by 20 years. Then fudge for the number of women who get raped more than once. Assume by a different perp. The numbers don’t look near as good.
Here is a good place to start for further reading material:
http://powerandcontrol.blogspot.com/2004/09/heroin.html
It deals with the fact that 70% of female heroin users claim childhood sexual abuse.
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http://www.wlwt.com/r/30517471/detail.html
A story I thought you might be interested in.
I also live in the DFW area. It’s always interesting coming across blogs that are local.
Dalrock:
Over at the Solomonreborn page, you — or someone — took down the Proverb 31 page which was a list of Roissy’s Maxims. How come? I do have to admit that the comments section got a little heated. Anyway, what gives?
I haven’t done anything there but allow held comments through for quite a while. I didn’t ever finish posting all of his old stuff, and some of his posts I held back for specific reasons. I don’t recall either holding that one back or deleting it though. Could it be I never got that far?
Edit: Found it. For some reason I had unpublished it; I’m not sure why. I just republished it. There are some others including Proverbs 31 which are there as well. I’ll look at them later and if I can’t figure out why I pulled them I’ll republish them. That may not be for a while though. Remind me in a month if they still aren’t up.
Your thoughts on this article?
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-interacting-with-woman-leave-man-cognitively-impaired&WT.mc_id=SA_syn_HuffPo
Love the blog, keep up the good work!
Dalrock, there’s this website that claims that sex ratios is still above 1.0 until 50 years old and above: http://ratiofactor.blogspot.com/.
The blogger then concludes that women can still afford to play the field until their 30s before settling down. The reasons are that the sex ratio favors women, economic independence and less pressure to get married.
What’s your take on this?
Dalrock:
here’s a new study parsed out over at the Social Pathologist:
http://socialpathology.blogspot.com/2012/03/sexual-history-divorce-risk-ii.html
I haven’t read it, but it has to do with correlation between premarital sexual history and risks of divorce. Looks like a followup on the one he previously fisked.
deti
Dalrock:
Head on over to the Social Pathologist. he has some new studies up, or at least some new takes on old ones.
socialpathology.blogspot.com
Beta of the year? Fool of the year. Definite proof that game, even accidentally used game works.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/weddings/on-love-youre-perfect-for-me-youre-my-counterpoint/2012/03/29/gIQA37LwlS_story.html?sub=AR
Dalrock,
Following on from your mention in the Bettina Arndt article in the SMH, Melbourne Reverend Father Tony Kerin, has come out and said women need to be less choosy in marriage.
http://www.heraldsun.com.au/ipad/catholic-church-says-single-women-are-being-too-fussy/story-fn6bfm6w-1226348186291
“Are women getting too choosy? I’d say yes,” said Father Kerin, speaking on behalf of the archdiocese. “I think many are setting aside their aspirations for later, but by the time they get around to it, they’ve missed their chance.
“In trying to have it all, they end up missing out.”
Prominent Australian demographer Bernard Salt raises the following statistics which dance around the elephant in the room, hypergamy:
“Demographer Bernard Salt calculated there are 1.3 million women aged 25-34.
But of the 1.343 million men in the same age bracket, only 86,000 single, heterosexual, well-off, young men were available after excluding those who were already married (485,000), in a de facto relationship (185,000), gay (7000), a single parent (12,000) or earning less than $60,000 a year.”
Long time reader, I’m a higher functioning beta in a reasonably stable marriage, attempting to learn game to possibly improve my relationship.
Divorce was a very real possibility as recently as 6 years ago, due to my spouse’s escalations during disagreements.
The drama has largely gone away, but I still find myself ruminating how badly I would have treated by the divorce industry.
I identify as a fiscal and moral conservative, but I see the mainstreaming of same sex marriage as a way of removing the bias against men.
That is: how would the courts behave, when it wasn’t obvious, based upon gender, who was to be disposessed and enslaved as a result of divorce?
Respectfully,
Tony goff
Hey Darlock, I’m fairly new to the manosphere so I am not sure if what I am about to suggest already exists out there somewhere. In the comments to your post about Janine Turner, Van Rooinek wrote “Manosphere Prime Directive: Don’t trust what women say, watch what they DO.”, which led me ask are there really manoshphere prime directive written down, and if not, why not. I think it is important to not just debate among ourselves, but to also export our ideas in a readily digestible form to the general public, especially young men. A set of prime directive would be a good starting point and a good reference tool when engaging the mass media. My idea is for a site like yours (not necessarily yours if you are not interested) to start a collaborative effort among its readers to develop such a prime directive. To get the ball rolling, I wrote down some of what I’ve learnt since entering the manosphere in order of importance.
The modern young man’s guide to coexisting with the modern young woman (Manosphere Prime Directives)
1. Her number one priority above all else (including children and faith), is her own happiness and wellbeing
2. As a man you have to know when to tell a her no.
3. Don’t pay attention to what she says, pay attention to what she does
4. Don’t let your eyes deceive you, she is rarely what she seems.
5. She is in it to win it, so you had better be too.
6. Your level of trust in her should never exceed her level of investment in you.
7. Beware of her rationalization hamster.
8. Nice guys (beta males) do finish last (to ride the carousel), and alone (divorced), and broke
(paying child support and/or alimony).
9. Its not all your fault, despite what she and everyone else says.
10. Don’t trust alpha males.
11. Beware of good men (white knights) who defend her honor, especially if they are standing
behind you.
12. There are still a few good women out there. If you are lucky enough to find one: love her,
respect her, honor her, cherish her and please lead her.
This is just a starting point and not etched in stone. Tell me what you think. Is such a project something that you or anyone else would be willing to get behind and develop?
I just noticed deti’s post which mentions Roissy’s Maxims of which I was unaware. After reading his fine work I would like to ask that you remove my previous post as I humbly bow to a master.
Is there any legitimacy in this discussion about how male contraception was shot down – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JymN5yu-K_o
I mean, even if 10-20% suffer permanent infertility it’s still an option to the more invasive vasectomy.
Dalrock, I want to “third” the people asking you to contact them by email. I’ve got something I’d like to share with you. Can you drop me a line? [redacted].