You can’t make this stuff up.

  • Selling divorce?  Check.
  • Eat Pray Love nonsense?  Check.
  • Female Martyrdom?  Check.
  • Aging Post Marital Spinster?  Check.
  • Ex husband who ended up better off?  Check.
  • Photos fit for a geriatric performance of Grease?  Check! Check! Check!

Courtesy of The Daily MailThink it’s only middle-aged men who buy superbikes, and take young lovers? Meet the WOMEN having midlife crises too

‘I know it sounds like a cliche, but I was desperate to break out of my marriage and do something exhilarating,’ she recalls. ‘For three years before I left my husband I had growing feelings of doubt which, in the end, I just couldn’t ignore.

The thing is, women are waiting so long to marry now they really have to hustle to divorce in time while still playing the trapped in marriage card.  Our poor trapped 38 year old heroine was married for a whole 2 years before firing up the script.  After three years of melodrama, she pulled the trigger:

So Lucy left Mark, her husband of five years, and their picturesque cottage in Hampshire to embark on a year-long adventure that would lead her to a new life, in a new country, with a new, younger lover.

Now she is 45 and I’m guessing has burned through whatever savings she had.  Oh well, I’m sure it will work out just fine for her.  She probably will find out that her boyfriend is a secret multi-millionaire.  Happens all the time.

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24 Responses to You can’t make this stuff up.

  1. dream puppy says:

    They are selling divorce, not adventure. You can go on an adventure with your spouse and have a wonderful time.
    This is very cruel to the women that cannot see behind the thin veneer. The media has become very culturally disruptive. They could have told this story in a number of ways, but chose the positive angle. They push discord and disharmony wrapped in a shroud of empowerment. Through deception, war.

    [D: This is it. It truly is cruel to women.]

  2. Ah, the divorce fantasy writ large and in charge!

    Emotional pornography at its most effective. Happy, healthy hamsters need a steady diet of such fantasies.

  3. There is a meme out there in the Manosphere:

    Women want to get married, they don’t want to be married.

  4. Gorbachev says:

    The goal of a major branch of feminism was the elimination of marriage, pair-bonding and families. This was an openly articulated project.

    Lo and behold.

  5. Anonymous Reader says:

    Gorbachov is right. I am on the road and don’t have access to the stack of dusty feminist tomes to provide references, but there was a variant that even back in the lat 80’s was calling for an end not only to patriarchy, but to any form of marriage. The alternative touted was a “fluid, ever changing series of relationships” that was pretty much explicitly to exclude any permanent bondings of any sort, save of course the mother-child relationship (which is Extra Special and shall not be ever affected). Lesbian triads, group marriages and polyandry were also favored. Polygamy, on the other hand, was denounced as a patriarchal form.

    So, yeah, it appears that there is the ongoing push towards such “fluid” relationships. And I’m sure there are some number of women who like that, probably high “T” types with squarish jaws. Thus a majority of women are to be put into various forms of misery, in order that 1/10th of 1% can be happy. Sorta.

  6. Eric says:

    Getting involved with feminized American women is only asking for an early grave, a suicide, or a nervous breakdown. Time for us men to exercise our inalienable right of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness—-embargo the Amerobitch!

  7. Lily says:

    Funny outfits!! Interesting, sseems happened 3 years before Eat Pray Love was written..

    “Now she is 45 and I’m guessing has burned through whatever savings she had. Oh well, I’m sure it will work out just fine for her. She probably will find out that her boyfriend is a secret multi-millionaire.”
    Where’s the bit where it says she’s burnt through her savings..I can’t find it? She had a flat in London as well as the cottage in Hampshire. After splitting 50/50 with her ex, even allowing for mortgages and this being back in 2003, she should have had money in the 100s of thousands not the 10s of thousands her travels would have cost. And her mother probably left something (I guess probably the property she shares with her sister which most likely wouldn’t have had a mortgage on it and free of inheritance tax).

    Her new business doesn’t look very big though. But she should make an ok income out of it and she still has half share of a property here. At least her boyfriend works as an assistant director in a bank (which even in a high street branch does mean something in Spain, not like here) not in a bar lol.

    Interestingly, she’s commented:
    “I´ve really enjoyed reading the comments – the good, the bad and the ugyly! For the motorbike people, I´ve had my bike licence since I was 17 and the Harley is one of a series of different bikes I´ve had and is now for sale. The next bike will be a Triumph Cafe Racer and we´ll see if I do the 49,000 miles across the UK and Europe without a breakdown that I´ve done with the Hog! Relationships are not always easy. An article can only give part of the information as to what really happened and the external factors that contributed to a very emotional and difficult decision. Suffice to say, it was more than just a passing whim. A lot of soul searching, tears and heartache went into a decision that went against a belief that marriage is for ever. The hardest decision is realising that square pegs and round holes don´t always make a good match and the kinder and braver thing for all concerned, is to admit a mistake was made and try to move on in a way that is honest and respectful”

    @Eric
    Did you read the article before the post? The Daily Mail is an English paper. This woman is English not American. But the Daily Mail and some blogs in these parts have a lot in common. It is a great thing the Daily Mail is online as it brings its gems to all us folk who would never be seen to buy it. I was actually told off yesterday for reading it by my granny who is staying with me as she sees it as a paper for vapid, brainless, useless women, full of bigoted views.

  8. Lily says:

    Anyone who thinks they have written this article to sell divorce or promote this woman as a ‘a heroine’ is missing the nuances of differences in the different British newspapers, what the Daily Mail is and whom it is aimed at.

    As a hint, the summary of this article “Yet any man who turned that phrase around to suggest that a ‘good wife’ should allow a husband having a mid-life crisis ‘to explore his sense of self-worth’ would be branded a hateful misogynist. Yes, more and more women may be having a traditionally ‘male’ mid-life crises. But whether that makes them any less self-indulgent or immature than their male counterparts is another matter altogether.”

  9. Lily says:

    I’m surprised they didn’t manage to find one on benefits, ideally a single mother.

  10. Thag Jones says:

    Looking at the pictures I could only think “grow up.”

  11. Dalrock says:

    @Lily
    Where’s the bit where it says she’s burnt through her savings..I can’t find it? She had a flat in London as well as the cottage in Hampshire. After splitting 50/50 with her ex, even allowing for mortgages and this being back in 2003, she should have had money in the 100s of thousands not the 10s of thousands her travels would have cost.

    They were only married for 5 years total, so I don’t see how they could have gained that much marital equity. She’s been on the road since 2005 or 2006, doing odd jobs like teaching English and then opening up her travel agency:

    Lucy’s adventure cost several thousand pounds, funded by the sale of the house she and Mark had shared, and the division of their assets.

    Next she went to Mexico, then spent five weeks in Zambia helping in an orphanage, did a tour of Australia and New Zealand by motorbike, and spent three months teaching English in China before catching the Trans-Siberian railway across Mongolia and Siberia.

    But I see your point. I’m going partly on having seen others make similar moves. The money tends to run out very fast.

  12. Lily says:

    Well she was 38 when she left her husband, so 33 when she got married. She also said ‘my flat’ in London so presumably had it before they bought the place in Hampshire certainly given what she said her job was, it was more likely to be in London. A single professional woman working in London would usually buy a place by age 28. Even in 2003, a 2 bed flat in London, not central would have been around 300k. A 3 bed cottage in Hampshire would have been at least the same. Presumably she married someone with a similar income level to her. She only travelled for a year.

    [D: You've made up several sources of wealth not mentioned in the article. I think it is more likely that she rented the flat in London either to avoid a commute or during her 3 year "oh no I'm trapped in marriage" period of melodrama. It does look like she only actively traveled for a year or so, but she has been out of her career for 5 years. She lives with her sister, so you assume she must own half of her sister's place. More likely it is because she can't afford one of her own.]

  13. Timothy says:

    There is a meme out there in the Manosphere:

    Women want to get married, they don’t want to be married.

    True. Women want to feel like a princess for an entire day in front of family and friends, but don’t want any of the responsibilities that comes after the wedding ceremony. Even then, most turn into Bridezillas as the date approaches, and who likes a control freak?

    [D: I did my take on this here.]

  14. Badger says:

    “True. Women want to feel like a princess for an entire day in front of family and friends, but don’t want any of the responsibilities that comes after the wedding ceremony. Even then, most turn into Bridezillas as the date approaches, and who likes a control freak?”

    I have a very I guess “Brothers Grimm” type of approach to this. If a woman wanted so badly to be married she’d be OK with eloping, I’m inclined to think she’s humble enough to deserve a luxurious wedding – it won’t spoil her. If on the other she insists she can’t be married without a blowout party, I think she has her head screwed on wrong. There are some Gospel parables like this as well.

  15. Anonymous says:

    Sounds like my ex-wife.

  16. Eric says:

    Lily;

    American, British, Canadian, Australian: little difference. They’re products of the same feminist Anglo culture and they hate men.

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  18. dream puppy says:

    @Eric- the feminist culture is not anglo, certainly not when it started.

  19. TGP says:

    The real victim is Antonio’s boyfriend.

    [D: Good one.]

  20. Anonymous says:

    In Yahoo!…

    “A Homeowner With No Savings, but Some Options,” by Tess Vigeland, New York Times via Yahoo!, March 25, 2011

    http://finance.yahoo.com/retirement/article/112417/homeowner-no-savings-some-options

    Case in point. 70, divored, no money, can’t afford to retire.

  21. CSPB says:

    Here is the next place to squeeze out some money to further the dream and delusion.
    Nutty and Dangerous
    Don Cooper on the million-woman discrimination lawsuit against Wal-Mart

  22. My Name Is Jim says:

    That yahoo finance article should be shown to anyone spouting the platitudes like jump and the net will appear, follow your passion, do what you love and let the money follow, etc. Bet she had fun with her artist musician, but now you and me are going to be paying her bills in government help when she gets sick, not him. She rejected you, now she’ll bill you. But it’s OK cause she’s a special snowflake.

  23. David says:

    Found your website after doing a google search for “Eat pray love bull$hit”.

    The only thing I can say is:

    YOU ROCK!

    [D: Made my day. Welcome to the blog! I think you will fit right in.]

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