One interesting thing about EPL is that it is based on actual events that happened around 10 years ago. If you are like me you are pretty close to EPL’d out, but I thought I’d share a quick summary of what I was able to find on where Elizabeth Gilbert and her ex husband are now.
Having written a book on divorce, Elizabeth decided to write a book on marriage titled Committed. From the Publishers Weekly review on Amazon:
How did a woman who didn’t want children land the only Latino hottie with a vasectomy in all of Indonesia?
I know the ladies are dying to see this Latino hottie, so here he is:
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Oh wait, thats him in the movie. Here is a picture of the guy in real life (full article):
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Now ladies, contain yourselves. Felipe is taken. You see, it turns out he needed a visa to get into the US, so he asked Elizabeth to marry him. After a year of bickering and unhappiness together, she finally said yes after he explained it to her. From the Publishers Weekly book review on Amazon.com:
When are you going to understand? As soon as we secure this bloody visa and get ourselves safely married back in America, we can do whatever the hell we want.
You couldn’t make stuff this romantic up!
In case you are curious, Elizabeth is 41. Felipe is 58 and his real name is José Nunes. From her website she now lives with José in the US, and they have many pets.
The Ex
Her real life ex is named Michael Cooper, and seems like a very cool guy. Check out his linked in bio, including a picture.
According to The Daily Beast:
A decade after Gilbert divorced him, Cooper is now married to a Canadian diplomat named Béatrice Maillé. They have two young boys, Charlie and Sammy.
I didn’t find his age, but based on his undergrad start date on his bio I’m guessing he is about 45. I couldn’t find a picture of his current wife either, but here is her linkedin page with her impressive bio. I have to say though, it sounds like this guy didn’t learn his lesson the first time around, and married another feminist. Hopefully this one is better than the last.
Dumbass Leftist marries two dumbass Leftists in a row. No surprise there. Hope he enjoys sequential ass-reamings in divorce court.
Now ladies, contain yourselves. Felipe is taken.
Her choice of Felipe isn’t all that surprising. I think hypergamy is often exaggerated. For both men and women, spouse #2 usually is a horizontal move as opposed to a move up. In this cae, Felipe has exotic panache; Cooper has hair. It evens out. I would bet that in many respects they are similar men. Most people have a type that they constantly return to.
OTOH, both Gilbert and Cooper seem to have gotten what they wanted out of life. Cooper wanted kids. His new “feminist” wife gave him two sons. Good for him! Gilbert didn’t want kids; Felipe has a vasectomy. Not what I’d have chosen, but good for her.
No, the prominent human-rights activist didn’t launch into a tirade about the throngs that were (likely at that very moment) cheering for the woman who temporarily destroyed his life, as reenacted by America’s sweetheart.
As I said before this shows class and restraint on his part. She OTOH has written a self-indulgent book. Yeah, there are some dopes who will read it, and she gets to profit from the movie, but he gets to keep his dignity by not whoring his story out. Between that and having a family, he is the clear winner in this case IMHO.
Seems like an awful lot of milage on that face for just 41. In the picture with the two of them together, is she standing on a box, or is her new Brazilian a little on the short side?
Lolz at movie Felipe vs real Felipe
I was really surprised to learn she was only 41. She looks much like my mother in law who is about 20 years older. But my mother in law still looks really young so that probably isn’t a fair comparison. I can’t find a picture of both of them where you can see who is taller. I found one where he looks taller than her, but it also looks like they are standing on good incline with him uphill. What I can say is I found an un-cropped version of that photo of the two of them and both appear to be standing.
Looking for another photo of him I learned that he is 17 years older than her, which would make him 58. Also, if anything she looks older in other photos, so it wasn’t a case of me finding a single pic which made her look older.
She’s fair-skinned. Sun damage can cause a lot of wrinkles. I do agree that she looks older than her years.
BTW, I left posts for you in the alpha/beta crayfish lure thread and the other EPL thread.
Her choice of Felipe isn’t all that surprising. I think hypergamy is often exaggerated. For both men and women, spouse #2 usually is a horizontal move as opposed to a move up. In this cae, Felipe has exotic panache; Cooper has hair. It evens out.
I don’t think when she originally divorced Cooper she had a guy like Felipe in mind. Something tells me along the way she reassessed her market value. Per Wikipedia:
In the midst of an affair, she separated from her husband and initiated a divorce, which he contested. The affair continued for some time but did not work out, leaving her devastated and alone.
I don’t think Gilbert looks too terrible for 41. She doesn’t look good, and no traces of youth remain anywhere on her face, but she doesn’t look quite ready for her AARP card just yet.
Thanks for posting the pictures, dalrock. After seeing the film, I was curious about what the people actually looked like.
OTOH, who knows what the original affair guy was like? I doubt he was a better catch than the husband either.
I’m 10+ years older and look significantly younger than she does. Her eyes look old–bags and crows-feet.
Honestly, who cares. She’s happy, he’s happy, we all make mistakes they moved on.
Aunt Haley, just read your review of the movie. Thanks for the chuckles.
My wife is a couple years older and looks a lot better. She’s fair-skinned too, plus she has the stress of three kids (which Mz Cheat-Stray-Slag doesn’t have) to furrow her brow.
Then again, my wife’s husband is a lot better looking that either Felipe, and he didn’t marry her jjust to get a green card either. So it all evens out I guess.
Thanks Dalraock for digging up – as Paul Harvey used to say – the rest of the story.
Eh, she didn’t “make a mistake.” She abused the trust of the man who originally married her, then decided to make a buck out of trashing him in public.
She’s garbage.
She looks vulpine.
Elizabeth and Felipe sing two songs to each other, both now and eternally (‘eternally’, as in after the Just Judge has pronounced upon them, and, as usual, granted them exactly what they most want, their true heart’s desire):
1) From “1984″, they clasp each other and sing:
Under the spreading chestnut tree, I used you and you used me.
2) And then, both now magically dressed as Barney the Purple Dinosaur, and both granted his goofy voice:
I use you,
You use me,
We’re a sterile entity….
3) GOTO 1.
Remember, she was working as a bartender in the Village when Cooper met her.
My guess is that her appearance is based on having more mileage than a 1970s Beetle at this point.
Nova–
Good one.
Yeah she’s garbage, whatever Lily says. Filipe’s also gonna dump her sorry ass before long, or cheat on her with younger hotter girls. And there’ll be no way she can get back at him either, since he wisely won’t marry her.
He already did marry her. He needed a visa. It might be that she’s the one with more to lose financially though.
Doug, I just don’t care. She’s nobody to me. They’re just people living their lives. People make mistakes, people hurt people intentionally or unintentionally (can you put your hand on your heart and say you haven’t). Just people. I have no wish to talk about people I don’t know or wish them ill. She’s just some woman who wrote a book about her life and people bought it. I am baffled as to why she is getting all these blog posts.
Lily, we’re not talking about people here. We’re talking about examples.
If this slut and her visa-digging Brazilian were anonymous strangers off living their lives and trying to hide from the shame of what they’ve done, eh, like you said, who cares? But this particular ditz wrote a book celebrating her lying, cheating life, Orca sold it the wymyn of American, and now there’s a chickflick splashing it all over the retinas of impressionable could-be cougars all over the country.
It’s kind of important to expose the fraud for what it is: uncivilized, sociopathic, selfish and destructive behavior.
Because what she has done is being celebrated.
Can you imagine a similarly situated man’s story being celebrated like that? A guy leaves his wife because he’s bored and travels around the world “finding himself” and bonking women? First, that would not be sold as a book or filmed — at least not in a way that would be trying to construe it as “positive” (Tucker Max got his chance, but the idea there was to show what cads men can be, not really to “celebrate liberation”, as the various campus protests against the film demonstrated). But if it would have been, it would have been protested up and down and excoriated by the female press and academy.
Why the double standard? Why excoriate men for treating women badly but then hold up women as being “enlightened and empowered” for doing what Gilbert did (and make no mistake, the Oprah-cum-feminist media has done and is doing *exactly* that).
It’s one of the biggest double standards today: male adultery is horrible, caddish, irresponsible and betraying, whereas female adultery is liberating, empowering, enlightening and self-actualizing. And women are quite happy with this double standard, as we can see amply from their reaction to Gilbert’s tale. It’s disgusting.
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@jack
I hate this “find yourself” meme. What does it mean? The culture of platitudes drives me crazy.
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wow .. so harsh. I think she looks amazing! lovely, no makeup and he has the kindest face. They both look amazingly content. Not too many pics out there of him, but the 2 I’ve seen .. I think hes very attractive … and together they look blissful.
This is ridiculous – of course, men are celebrated all the time for being non-committal, adventurous and selfish. Just because this woman isn’t what you consider beautiful, or may not be the perfect model wife you expect, you feel like you need to take time to belittle her and her new husband? I wish them both the best, and I hope small minded men and women don’t continue to diminish her into a “slut” like you are here.
@Katie189
This is ridiculous – of course, men are celebrated all the time for being non-committal, adventurous and selfish.
Of course you are correct. What was the name of that guy who left his wife for no legitimate reason and became a sort of folk hero to men? I hate it when I forget a name like that. He was the guy the men all idolized, a hero to men worldwide. I remember it so clearly. I took my wife to see the movie even. All of my buddies read the book too. We had such insightful and empowering discussions about it. And yet I can’t recall the guy’s name!
Can anyone help me?
At least she’s not going to reproduce any more (unless she get tired of “Philipe” and trades him in for a hot stud before menopause, of course).
This post is directed towards Nova Seeker and the other posters against Gilbert. First, I do not condone adultery or any form of non-marital cheating. Having an affair was definately wrong, but I am not here to judge.
I read the book, EPL, and I found it very illuminating. In this forum, Gilbert has been continuously refered to as a “slut” and in one post a question is posed thusly, “Can you imagine a similarly situated man’s story being celebrated like that? A guy leaves his wife because he’s bored and travels around the world “finding himself” and bonking women?”
It is important to note that in Gilbert’s quest she intended to avoid any and all forms of romantic relationships as well as physical intimacy for one year. Her purpose was that she was so intangled in relationships with men that she had no clue who she really was. That is what this book is about – it is a journey of self-discovery.
Some of the lessons she learned are lessons that we have already learned but still, watching how she learns it and applies the knowledge is inspiring.
I don’t know anything about her except what is written in her book and what little I have read about her. However, I understood her purpose to be one of accepting her mistakes, coming to terms with what she had done and growing from the pain.
Perhaps that is just my interpretation of the book and not her true intention; however, that interpretation gives the book a deeper meaning which has inspired others.
Do I condone her past actions – no I do not…and I think she doesn’t either which, IMHO, is why she set out on her journey. Do I think she could have done it differently? Yes, i think she could have made different decisions that may have yielded a better result. Nonetheless, in the end, she did discover who she is without a man…and like most stories I hear, it is at that time that you meet the “one.” Whether that is Jose (Felipe), well, only time will tell.
In the meantime, don’t judge her. We have all made mistakes and we have all had to attone for them. She published hers but perhaps it was to help others from making the same mistakes. To help others lost in similar ways. The book has touched many people and not because it is a rivoting page-turner, but because it gives hope-not for romantic love-but for self-love and for God’s love.
Julia: My guru has informed me that a man with spiritual drive is only allowed to leave his family with his mother’s permission or if married with his wife’s permission. He wanted to go on a private retreat as instructed by his guru many decades ago, but had to postpone it because of family obligations.
If you read books about the saint Ramakrishna you will see him not allowing married men to follow him.
I love how you’re all running your mouths left and right about a person you have absolutely no personal knowledge of and a book that I’m willing to bet 99.9% of you haven’t even picked up and looked at.
Eat, Pray, Love is a memoir — It’s a book that’s brutally truthful, honest, and quite frankly, it’s inspirational. Gilbert doesn’t sugarcoat anything or try to disillusion everyone into believing life is all sunshine and roses. I’m willing to bet EVERY SINGLE PERSON who posted on here has, at some point in life, made a monumental mistake that either hurt someone close to you or made you look like a complete jackass when all was said and done. It’s a part of life, people make mistakes, people act selfishly, people are not perfect. That’s all a part of this wonderful concept those of us in the psychology world call being human.
I find it quite amusing how the usual double standard is so prevalent here as well. It’s okay for men to cheat on their wives, think with the brain between their legs, chase tail all around town, and objectify women to the point where they’re almost entirely dehumanized … But it isn’t okay for a woman who is unsatisfied in her marriage to separate from her husband (and eventually divorce him), attempt to connect with someone new (even though it was unsuccessful), decide to spend a year traveling while trying to restore her mental and emotional health, and happen to meet the love of her life along that road? She wasn’t unfaithful to her husband before they were separated, she practiced self-imposed celibacy for the first 9 months of her travels in order to allow herself time to heal emotionally and spiritually (pretty funny that this person you’re labeling a “slut” has only slept with two men since she divorced, isn’t it?), and hey, guess what, her husband took EVERYTHING she had in the divorce, so in order to get back on her feet her publishing company offered her the opportunity to turn this trip into a memoir. Big effing deal. She is a WRITER. This is her CAREER. She had EVERY RIGHT to publish that book.
I can’t believe people would attack this woman. She made a mature adult choice to end her marriage because her and her husband wanted different things out of life. She didn’t want children, he did. She didn’t want the whole “white picket fence” lifestyle, he did. She wanted a man who was emotionally stable and mature, a man who could put his mind to one task instead of bouncing all over the place and being indecisive, he wasn’t like that at all. These are big hurdles to overcome and more often than not they’re “deal breakers.” At least she was responsible enough to leave the marriage when she did instead of allowing it to drag out and having a child just to satisfy her husband.
For the record – Charlie Sheen, Brad Pitt, Jude Law, David Arquette, Jesse James — There’s a whole laundry list of well-known men who are absolutely disgusting womanizing pigs who have had affairs and wouldn’t know what monogamy is if it hit them in the face, and yet society STILL puts them on pedestals and keeps them in the spotlight and people STILL look up to them and admire them. They may not have written memoirs about their experiences, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t use their social status and public influence to emotionally exploit the people who at one point in time loved them.
I think this woman is admirable. It’s just a shame that people have to be so bitter and rude.
Nikki: “I love how you’re all running your mouths left and right about a person you have absolutely no personal knowledge of …”
You forgot his part very quickly, I must say.
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I wish them well. I know many Latinos are Catholic, so I really hope Elizabeth has now found the true God. She seems to be putting a lot of effort into this second marriage.
And good for the ex too, remarrying and having kids. The book made her reason for divorce and her mixed feelings more relatable than the movie, though I’m glad the film showed how much she hurt her husband instead of just making him the bad guy. She was right about one thing: she had been irresponsible with relationships and needed time to figure things out alone, before risking hurting another guy as well as herself.
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Dalrock, EPL may be an extreme case of a husband getting screwed over by female solipsism, but lots of women do similar things on a smaller scale, within their own social circle. They may not write a book to millions advertising how they cuckolded their ex, but they will spill stories about you on Facebook to divert judgement from having cheated, for example.
This is why I have my own revenge file. Women can run their hamsters all day and make themselves think their truly b***hy days are forgotten or explained away. But the hamster cannot outrun the truth written down as it really happened. I write down and keep the really good quotes, the stories where she blew up at something really minor and stayed mad for days, that sort of thing. If she wraps herself up in her own self-indulgent mind and decides to put all my dirty laundry out for the world, I can just put “the rest of the story” out there and once it isn’t making her look so glamorous to her friends as she hoped, you’d be surprised how fast she gets shaken out of her self centeredness.
The revenge file, every heterosexual man needs one. (Do NOT breathe a word of it to your girl, idiot. Just smile and say nothing until that day comes.)
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“I wish them well. I know many Latinos are Catholic, so I really hope Elizabeth has now found the true God.”
That narcissistic bitch imagines that every time she looks in the mirror. Cannot believe that women here actually justify her selfish,narcissistic behaviour like it just happened by accident. Streuth, no wonder guys are looking at anything but marriage with this shining example put on a pedestal….
Julia, your post is contradictory and really illustrates the way women think about relationships these days. You’re ‘not here to judge’…this is something I hear from women a lot, they aren’t going to judge people, and ‘Don’t judge me’, but, where do you draw the line? What do people have to do before others say ‘That’s enough’? “Not judging” sounds cool, I guess;I just see it as not having any kind of a moral stance in life. Women judge pretty quickly when it’s another woman hurt, though, don’t they, even without evidence! A man cheats once, or even suspected of it and all the girlfriends advise kicking him out. Women get book deals and leeway, this bias even is evident in criminal cases (Duke, Winkler, Anthony).
In addition, I’m sorry, but how do you not know who you are? Be so involved in a relationship that you do not know yourself? It’s either frantic excuse-making, or the signs of mental illness…do women just parrot this stuff without really thinking about what it means? I was a small child when , in the 60s, I caused my father to roar with laughter when I asked what could be happening to give so many women amnesia? At 6 or 7 years old it sounded like a crock to me, and it still does.
For Gilbert this may be ‘The One’ but only time will tell!? Isn’t the appearance of The One unmistakable? Trumpets and angels and all? Did she think her husband was The One, or was he just to tide her over? I’m being facetious, but the idea of The One is one of the more destructive ideas in the American courtship model. Were you aware of the fact that this belief is not shared by other cultures?.
Nikki, the fact that you now even less about the posters here than we all know about Gilbert didn’t stop you, I see.
“I’m willing to bet EVERY SINGLE PERSON who posted on here has, at some point in life, made a monumental mistake that either hurt someone close to you or made you look like a complete jackass”
Fortunately no, I have not made a ‘mistake’ on this scale. This was not a “mistake” but a conscious decision to walk away from a marriage from boredom, after cheating with another man. Those are conscious decisions, not “mistakes” like spilling your coffee, however I think that women’s worst, most calculated behavior being dismissed as ‘mistakes’ will one day prove to be a double-edged sword. By calling such behavior ‘mistakes’ you virtually absolve women from the consequences of their actions…as well as paint women as weak-willed creatures who can’t find their behinds with both hands (‘She snapped’ ‘she must have been abused’ ‘she must be mentally ill’).
“It’s okay for men to cheat on their wives, think with the brain between their legs, chase tail all around town, and objectify women to the point where they’re almost entirely dehumanized”
You must be crapped out after building a straw man of those dimensions! No one here said any of that at all, much less that they approved. Oh, and call me old-fashioned, but the first thing I would deem it wise to do when ‘unsatisfied’ in a marriage is to talk about it! Try to save it! Not just be gone one day when the husband comes home, this husband, like many, ‘had no idea’. That’s not considerate, nor mature.
I won’t even get into the ‘mystical magical brown people know all the secrets of life’ meme the book, and so much pop culture dreck is based on…..(really, you don’t want me to go there).
‘that’ so much pop culture dreck is based on’
Is she really 41? My grandmother looked better at 90. As for the ‘hot stud’—well, I guess that’s further proof that women really go for the ‘Alpha’ types—LOL
Nikki:
Don’t get discouraged, a lot of us men here like reading posts like yours. We need these occasional reminders of why we stopped dating American women.
Dalrock:
Isn’t it illuminating reading all these posts from the ‘Sisterhood’? It’s funny listening to them rant against divorce, adultery, sluttiness—only until one of their own gender sells her story and then they revert to type: NAWALT; all men are pigs, she’s the victim, she’s entitled, &c. &c &c. Maybe if women didn’t end all relationships 90% of the time and have a demonstrable track-record of being abusers, liars, cheaters, betrayers and sluts in most relationships a story like EPLs might have some more credibility. Too bad—it’s like like listening to these politicians who just get out of jail and write books claiming that their crimes were ‘in the public interest’.
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Eric:
Don’t get discouraged either by all these sluts on here (to quote The Princess Bride here: I don’t think the word means what you think it means…), who dare to post their opinion instead of pumping out babies and keeping the kitchen nice and tidy. Please keep posting misogynist dribble like that so we can have a constant reminder why we evil feminist sluts don’t date disgusting, self-indulgent assholes like you anymore, be they American or not.
Elizabeth Gilbert is not my favourite person on the planet either, but the hatred expressed here is ridiculous, and obviously there are quite a number of people on here who need some serious therapy. I don’t think this woman has done anything to hurt either of you, and if you don’t like her, just, you know, don’t read her stuff. Quite simple really. And she looks just fine for a 41-year-old.
Nikki
You call what this famous woman did a mistake and that we shouldn’t judge her. Yet you name famous men who did the same thing and call them disgusting pigs. You lie that she just left her husband and you leave out that she cheated. This book has become the best selling memoir of all times, celebrating this cheater. Revealing the true great double standard women hold against men, as they of course drag all cheating men through the mud.
You’re a hypocritical, vile, hateful, vomit-inducing cunt.
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