The Mirror has an article up titled Nearly half of women in relationships have ‘Plan B’ man they can run away with (H/T Earl). There isn’t much actual data presented, but the enthusiasm for women’s infidelity is standard fare. They quote a spokesman for onepoll.com celebrating modern women’s fickleness:
“This news may cause a few men in relationships to think twice about not taking the rubbish out or choosing a night down the pub in favour of a cosy night in with his partner.
“This could spark fear in men across the UK and be great news for women looking for that extra bit of love and care so that their attentions aren’t swayed.”
“One thing is for certain, men across the UK today will be giving their partners that extra kiss goodnight this evening.”
While it is hard to imagine a form of bad behavior by women which wouldn’t be celebrated by the media, keep in mind that the sentiment in the article is merely the secular form of the Modern Christian view of marriage.
Although the data presented is murky, the basic pattern is something my wife and I have observed. Women who divorce almost always expect to replace their current husband with a new one, and they very often already have the replacement selected when they decide to pull the trigger. However, what tends to happen is they have either misinterpreted an interest in sex for a desire to take the betrayed husband’s place, or they have miscalculated the intended replacement’s attractiveness for marriage.
One woman we know explained to my wife that when she left her husband she always expected to marry her (beta orbiter) friend. On paper this looked like a good plan. Her beta orbiter had a good job and was eager to marry her. When she spoke with him on the phone she could imagine herself marrying him. But whenever he came over she found his obsessing over her so repulsive that she never was able to even bring herself to kiss him. There was a reason this man dreamed of wifing up a fickle woman; he had no better options. Since then her romantic prospects have steadily declined, and now she is a late 30s divorcée instead of a 29 year old divorcée. Meanwhile, her ex husband has married a younger woman and received a prestigious promotion.
Earlier this week Bill Frezza rhetorically asked at Forbes why drunk female students are never described as irresponsible jerks.
In our age of sexual equality, why drunk female students are almost never characterized as irresponsible jerks is a question I leave to the feminists.
Frezza quickly received the answer to this question when Forbes immediately removed the column and severed their relationship with him as a contributor. No one characterizes drunk female students as irresponsible jerks because this isn’t permitted.
Unfortunately Frezza caved and said that Forbes was right to pull the piece. But after caving he followed up with a hard point to argue with:
Any woman on campus knows that she is safe in our house, which is perhaps why some choose to behave with such reckless abandon
Yohami requested a rebuke for himself and others in his lifestyle, and it would be unloving of me to not provide one. This started as a comment but it was suggested that it deserves its own post, and I agree:
The lifestyle you are living is sinful. You are greatly harming yourself and the women you are with, not to mention countless children and husbands who are or will be in the picture. You aren’t leaving them better than you found them, you are leaving them worse off (as you are harmed by each time as well). You (and her) are using people for your own selfish pleasure, and the cost to yourselves and everyone else involved doesn’t matter to you.
As Heartiste explains:
It would be wise for you Don Juans to remember that, the next time you rationalize that your leaving her will actually make her a better person. There is no spinning away the ugly reality with a sappy cliche. Better to embrace your wicked choice and feast on the brutality of it all. Makes for a more invigorating life.
From Men You Marry Vs. Men You Bang:
Marry: A man who lets you fart around him.
Bang: A man who is grossed out by female functions.
Sure all of those other men banged her when she was younger and hotter, but you get something special.
Drudge via Time has picked up Jenny Bahn’s piece at XO Jane 30 Is the New 50: “Old Age” is Killing My Dating Life. What is fascinating is that while Bahn has stumbled on the painful truth, she still can’t fully connect the dots regarding her own choices. She can’t see that the young women she is unable to compete against are the younger version of herself. They don’t want to settle down now, but give them a decade and they will be singing the same song Bahn is singing now, complaining that men don’t want to commit. What is wrong with men?
It’s this logic that has most of my 30-something guy friends dating girls fresh out of college. Girls who, in my experience, are less impressive, less striving, less volatile, less successful, less intimidating, less questioning, less pressing, less complex, less damaged, less opinionated, less powerful, less womanly. They are less, and, to a guy not ready for anything — like most of the guys I have dated in New York — less is more.
A 30-year-old woman is an undertaking…
Now that she has more baggage and is more difficult, she expects more from men than she expected when she was younger and prettier. Is that too much to ask?
See Also: Women’s morphing need for male investment.