Full of sound and fury.

Mommyish has a post by a woman* who complains about all of the nice things people do for her.  This kind of feminist ugliness is pretty standard stuff, but her explanation of why people don’t need to protect her from convicts or walk her to her car at night stood out as one of the funniest things I’ve read in several weeks:

I should start by saying that I’m not a particularly small or helpless person. Sure, I’m 5’4″ in sneakers, but I’ve always been athletic and loud, by no means a shrinking violet.

Violent thugs beware;  she may be tiny, but she is loud and sporty.  She also has sorority girl street cred:

…when I was in college and on vacation with my sorority sisters, they once told me that in the event of a burglary, I was the one they would turn to for protection and a plan of attack.

 

*Correction: After reading her post again, I realize that I was mistaken when I originally referred to her as a single mother.

Posted in Chivalry, Fantasy vs Reality, Foolishness, Manosphere Humor, Ugly Feminists | 78 Comments

It’s hard on her, but not on her kids.

YourTango has a post titled 11 Things Single Parents Don’t Want To Hear.  Note the euphemism “single parent” when what they really mean is “single mother”.  The stigma against single mothers is clearly creeping back, and this will only accelerate.

Number one on the list is not to refer to single mothers as a “baby mama” and their child’s father as “baby daddy”.  No surprise here.  These terms make unwed motherhood sound trashy, low status, and low class.  Again, the stigma is creeping back in, and it will only get worse.

But what really stands out is how not having the father in the household is a great hardship for the mother, but somehow not for her kids.  When the hardship of a broken home is experienced by mom it is all too real:

10. How do you afford it? By working my butt off every day of the week!

11. Oh, come on. Being a single parent isn’t that hard. Really? Would you like to try it?

But any suggestion that her kids suffer as a result of growing up in the chaos of a broken home is dismissed outright:

4. Your poor kids have to grow up without a positive male role model. Between their grandfathers, uncles, teachers, and their father, I think they’ll be ok.

5. It’s shame. Kids really need both their parents. Would you say that to a single parent whose partner passed away?

8. Your kids are going to have some serious relationship issues. Oh, I’m sorry. I didn’t see the crystal ball in your hands. Please, tell me more about my children’s futures.

The only time she recognizes the harm this does to her kids is from the context of how their misery impacts her:

6. It must be nice to get a break from the kids every now and then. You’re right. It’s so nice to hear my kids cry because they’re sick of being shuttled between houses every week.

Posted in Denial, Motherhood, Solipsism, Stantons Heroes, Status of marriage | 386 Comments

Glenn Reynolds teaches women not to rape.

Several commenters have taken me to task for the ostensible naivety of the title of my post Teach women not to lie about rape.  For those who didn’t understand the title, feminists have rejected any advice to women on avoiding rape as part of “rape culture”.  Instead, the feminist solution is to simply “teach men not to rape”.  You can see examples of this thinking here and here, and The Boston Globe has written about it here.

Ironically the great risk here is that the idea is so absurd others won’t take feminists seriously.  It is tempting to assume they don’t really mean it, that they can’t really mean it.  However, as I’ve noted before the poster child for the Yes Means Yes law is Sophia Katz and her decision to travel to a strange city upon receiving an offer to sleep in a stranger’s bed.  From reading her own account she clearly kept her bed-mate confused about whether she was attracted to him, and she avoided rejecting him sexually because she wanted to continue to receive the freebies he was offering:

I had no interest in making out with him or having sex with him, but had a feeling that it would ‘turn into an ordeal’ if I rejected him. I had never been in a situation where I was living with someone for a period of time who wanted to have sex with me, that I didn’t want to have sex with. I knew I had nowhere else to stay, and if I upset him that I might be forced to leave.

“It’s okay. I get it. You don’t find me attractive.”

He was correct, but that wasn’t the only problem, and I somehow felt saying that would be cruel.

“It’s not that, I just don’t want to get into a sexual or romantic thing with anyone while I’m here.”

I got ready for bed with the hope that I would be treated to another evening of sleep without exhausting sexual assault, but was denied. Once again I found myself trying (and failing) to convince Stan that I didn’t find him unattractive, but still did not want to have sex with him, and was not consenting, by any means, to having sex with him. Once again I failed, and he had sex with my body while I stared up at the ceiling. I imagined what it would be like to be raped violently.

When feminists say “teach men not to rape”, they mean don’t teach women to avoid risky or even foolish choices.  They mean don’t teach women not to travel to a strange city and sleep in a strange man’s bed.  No matter how obvious and sound the teaching would be, no matter how much it would protect women, feminists would have us remain silent.  Feminist Amanda Taub explains (emphasis mine):

And yet those who criticize Katz for her role in what happened are not only saying that she was wrong to accept the opportunity Dierks offered; they are also saying that other young women should not do what Katz did. If other young women find themselves in her position, these people would argue, they should not accept the invitation, should not travel to a new place to make new professional connections, should not take that step to benefit their careers.

That attitude nibbles away at the edges of women’s opportunities.

This is the nonsense of the “teach men not to rape” slogan, and Instapundit Glenn Reynolds has written a series of posts lampooning this foolish slogan by turning it around.  Vox Day has picked this up and run with it as well.  The title of my post was a variation on the same theme.  However after looking through his archives I see that Instapundit beat me to it at least twice.

If you have a moment I highly recommend reviewing his posts on the topic as well as his blog in general.  He continuously adds new and interesting content.

Full Disclosure:  Instapundit has been very kind in sending traffic my way.  I can always tell when he has linked to something I have written because the resulting instalanch creates a pronounced spike in my wordpress toolbar:

instalanche

Posted in Feminists, Foolishness, Yes Means Yes | 62 Comments

Teach women not to lie about rape.

Policemag.com has story about a woman who claimed a New Mexico police officer sexually assaulted her when he arrested her for a DUI.  Fortunately for the officer he was wearing a lapel cam and the video exonerated him.  Still, you can hear the concern in his voice when life ruining charges were made against him.  This is serious business, as the president of the Albuquerque Police Department union explained:

The desire to frame officers for wrongdoing is a growing issue facing officers every day. We believe that the public should be held accountable for filing false reports against police officers. These incidents can be very damaging to an officer’s career, so we hope that this individual and others face appropriate consequences for their malicious actions.

The Blaze followed up on the same story and learned that charges won’t be filed because a false accuser of sexual assault isn’t fundamentally different than a real victim:

…despite the apparent falsehood of her sexual assault claim, police did not want to set a precedent that could discourage other potential victims of sexual assault from coming forward.

Taken at face value this suggests that women can’t tell the difference between making a false claim and making a real one.  But if women can’t tell the difference, how could we ever take any claim by women seriously?  This only makes sense when you consider what feminists are already telling us;  they don’t just want to stop real cases of rape and sexual assault, they want to create a culture where men are afraid of women.  For feminists rape isn’t about (forced) sex, it is about power.

Posted in Feminists | 153 Comments

Explaining the compulsion.

Commenter InnocentBystanderBoston asks why feminists are so intent on marking video games as feminine:

I don’t understand why feminist women want to be part of the world of “gaming.” It just doesn’t make much sense to me. Gaming is purely competitive, entirely meritocracy based. There simply is no space for feminists and their reach for government oversite for authority to equalize the arena. Any attempt to do this means that all the other games simply exit that arena and choose another arena.

More to the point, these people are nerds. I know I was when I gamed. Feminists don’t want to be around nerds. All they want is resources provided by the nerds (by way of tax increases) that nerds must pay to government so the feminists can get their life of Julia.

Feminism at its core is envy of men and a desire to usurp their position. It would be difficult to overstate just how deep this feeling is. This isn’t just about the apex fallacy, it is about a deep desire to “be one of the guys”.  Any group of men getting together to create or enjoy anything will result in women wanting in. The only question is which category the women belong to. Some will want to try to experience the manly enjoyment/pride directly, and will take real steps to be (like) one of the guys. These are the ones who tend to defend the male space.  They don’t want it ruined because they want to experience it.  But others (a much larger group) will realize that they can’t actually experience this, and will then set out to stamp out what they can’t have.  The first category inadvertently paves the way for the second, assuming they don’t themselves shift priorities mid stream.

This is Eve’s curse played out over and over again.  If you don’t get this, you can’t really get what motivates feminists, nor why they will forever be miserable.

Posted in Feminist Territory Marking, Feminists | 160 Comments