Stepping away

I’m turning on moderation so I can step away for a week or two.

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The Great Douchebag Mystery has a piece up titled How Sad Young Douchebags Took Over Modern Britain (H/T Captain Capitalism).  In the piece the author struggles to identify why the culture of young men has changed in recent years:

But while it’s easy to scorn the banality—and the vanity—of the modern British douchebag, they’re only products of their environment. An environment that has very little to offer them anymore, other than gym memberships, intentionally ripped clothes, alcohol, and creatine. The institutions that gave British men a sense of well-being have been ripped apart. Nobody trusts the police any more; nobody wants to join the army because no one believes in its wars; traditional industries have been decimated, and the only thing to replace them are stifling, mind-numbing positions in service and retail.

Because of this, British men have tried to reimagine masculinity, in a hyper-realized, childish, desperate way. A new kind of machismo, built on fake bravado and vanity. British men are looking up to faux-hawked, peacocking, rich maniacs like Mario Balotelli for inspiration, because they really have nowhere else to look.

There is probably a kernel of truth to his suspected causes, but there is a much more fundamental cause which he overlooks entirely;  the decline of marriage.  Sexual access to the most attractive women is a primary motivator for men.  In just a few decades the UK has gone from a society where the best way for a man to get access to an attractive woman was via marriage (or at least signaling husband potential) to the modern hookup culture where douchebags rule.

You can see the full extent of the change in the data on marriage rates from Table A1 in the report Cohabitation and marriage in Britain since the 1970s.  In the early 1980s over 70% of British women had married by age 25.  By 2004-2007 only 23% of British women had married by the same age.



Men will always compete with each other for access to the most attractive women, but how they compete is determined by the culture and the choices of the women themselves.  A young man in the UK who wants to have sex with the most attractive women has a very obvious rational choice, and that is to become the douchebag Britain’s young women crave.  This is without even considering the hostility towards husbands and fathers in the family courts, churches, and the culture at large.  British society is sending young men a very strong message:

Steddie Eddie need not apply, but douchebags are most welcome.

Don’t feed the animals image by Jim Champion

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Rolling back the odometer

The AFP explains how Tunisian women are suffering the injustice of having to trick men into marriage after they tire of riding the carousel:  Social pressures force Tunisia women to fake virginity

…she was forced into it by “the hypocrisy of men and of our society”.

The young woman decided one day that she would be honest with her boyfriend, whom she had not slept with, and told him she was not a virgin.

“But as soon as he knew, he refused to marry and did everything he could to get me into his bed. That’s the way Tunisian men think. A woman who has had sex before marriage is just a slut and can’t be a good mother!”

Commenter Rob offers a different perspective:

My first inclination is to laugh at these Arab men for wanting a virgin. But then I look at my situation. My wife of 26 years was “completely honest” with me about her sexual history. She told me she didn’t know the last name of the first man who got her pregnant. (A pregnancy that ended in abortion.) There were many other unions in which body fluids but not last names were exchanged. And then she told me that no one she had ever dated had to wait longer than I did before “union” occurred. (She had multiples more partners than I did.) This has left me with a sense of being the sucker left holding the bag for the entire duration of our marriage…….. Perhaps these Arab men, whom I have an overall low opinion of, are not so far off base wanting a situation a little more male affirming than mine?

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Where have all the good earners gone?

The WSJ is perplexed.  The Unemployment Puzzle: Where Have All the Workers Gone?

No doubt there is more than one answer to this question, but our forfeiting the patriarchal dividend has to be a factor.

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Rationalizing sluttery as a path to marriage.

Meet Kristina from Rolling Stone’s Tales From the Millennials’ Sexual Revolution:

…she doesn’t want to date; she wants to have sex, which thanks to the fact that she is cute and vivacious, she seems to do quite frequently. “My friends and I are like sexual vultures. We just go out and hunt for the guy that we’re going to get with. Like, my pheromones are insane right now.” Her current tally of men she’s slept with is 29…

Like many of her peers, Kristina sees her sluttyness through a lens of courtship.  She is confident that all of this time on her back will one day lead to the husband of her dreams:

…Kristina hopes to graduate and spend a few more years playing the field before getting married. In the process, she says, she hopes she never has to go on an actual date. “I’m obsessed with wedding crap, like I Pin wedding stuff all the time, and I love [celebrity-wedding planner] David Tutera and Say Yes to the Dress. Like, I’m obsessed with the idea of getting married, but I want to skip the dating part and just know who I’m going to marry.” She believes hookup culture might actually make this possible for her generation. “We’ll be so experienced in all the people that we don’t want, when we find the person who we do want, it’s just going to happen.”


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